Female, wife, full time mother and Grandmother. I am not as happy go lucky as I used to be but I am still bubbling along on simmer! I have three handsome sons all grown and flown.The youngest married with a beautiful wife and two sons of his own. Back in 2010 I was working, running a home, driving and socializing then bang in a split second all that was gone. I had an accident at home. I broke my back, not for the first time, I had broken it 10 years previously as well. Unfortunately this time I had broken it really badly and it was truly messed up so I had to have two operations. I was told before each operation that the outcome could mean I spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair. Still as some guy once wrote "I am still standing " yes "better than I ever was " I no longer use the walking stick . I had lots of friends before the accident but when things like this happen, you loose most of them. Their lives move on and mine stood still and so they left me behind ...I know that is just the way life is but it hurt and always will. Then I looked around and saw those who were still there for me, these friends are the roses in my garden they need to be tended well. They are the diamonds in the dust. I will of been married 53yrs this comming year. I have found different ways to approach life, use my pain befriend it almost...yer right , well that is what they tell me at the pain clinic ROFLMAO ...... if only I could! I have found an outlet for my fears, frustrations and night terrors . I have started writing poetry if that name can be applied to my writing. I hope I do not come over as a moaning winger. I hope I am past all that. I also hope that you might see how the poetry is moving from very dark through the grey and hopefully in to light.
My back is no longer straight it is C shaped because of the injury and I have lost two and a half inches in height but my Pilates and Core teachers have helped me to stand up as straight and be as strong as possible. Pain and depression are still hanging on my arm but I have weapons to use against them and if I say so myself I cope well.
I have made lots of new friends, real diamonds. I am also very grateful for all the support and help I have encountered here on Wordpress. Hugs and welcome to everyone who visits.
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76 thoughts on “FanFoFeb: Teenage car crash!”
So not worth the risk, Anything can wait till you get home safely before answering or texting
Yes no phone no drink no drugs in fact you should not smoke or eat really whilst in charge of a deadly weapon you just concentrate on the road and driving.
That’s just it, Too many don’t realize they are behind a weapon, they just think they got gas and brakes and that it would mean control, boy they couldn’t be more wrong ;(
No sad to say you are so right. They should all be made to witness the aftermath of one crash and attend a drink driving funeral. Harsh yes but they need to learn.
Yep, The thing about being human is slow to learn huh?
Yes I just wander if we even have the capacity to learn …..
wise words…but sadly a reality all to often…
two miles up the road from me..2 teenagers, 90+MPH the 14 yr olde was driving with no license, they were both texting..crossed the line head on..a mother and her 7 yrold son…seeing pieces of their life scattered over a mile will never leave my mind…
yes every teenager should see the after math …harsh reality, but might save a few lives…
Good post Willow
Take Care…You Matter…
)0(
maryrose
OH! that is just the sad cruel scenario I am talking about . Unfortunately we are seeing more and more roadside “shrines” and more often than note a photo of a young boy or girl. I am sorry to hear that you had to witness the shreds of life people gone and never coming back. Then you see their friend put beer cans or bottles of beer it makes so angry that is what kills them as much as the car… drink. As for using the mobile it is my pet hate I get so angry when I see people older people too using mobiles while driving……. sorry I must not go on ! Be well Maryrose you matter ! xxxxxxxx
So glad you added the last picture of the phone and driving… I see so many people (even grown ups who should know better) trying to text and try, just talking and driving, looking at a text someone sent them… plus all the alcohol, drugs and dares. It’s heartbreaking how many student’s funerals I’ve gone to in the last 4 or 5 years due to one of these vices… I got bluetooth in my car I can answer, but I’m not budging on the texting or reading them, much less the alcohol and then driving. So many kids have the “It won’t happen to me” opinion, until it does… 😀 Good post!
Oh! this is my pet hate, I see nearly every other driver on the phone in fact today I saw a bus driver in charge of his bus reading from a sheet of paper, it just makes me shudder. Things happen so quickly on the road.
So many young deaths and they do not learn and I hate this new habit they have of putting beer cans or bottle either on their graves or the accident scene! To me that is the ultimate insult, what next, phones , ipads laptops, Thank you I am glad the post has resonated loud and clear! Thanks for your support! 🙂 xx
Okay, I am thoroughly exasperated. I have now read three posts of yours and none of them showed in my reader. I know it’s a wp glitch but it makes me crazy. In a second I have to click unfollow and follow again so they’ll start showing up.
Yes I hate it when that happens, I had that only yesterday one bloger I follow had clicked a like on my post and I thought “Ah! I have not seen her for a while” so I went to her site to say hi, only to find none of her posts had been coming to me. I am glad to know you are following me thanks. 🙂
The pleasure is mine in following you. When we make friends here, I tend to worry if I don’t see someone posting, but I know now to go looking occasionally.
Thank you this is a sad tale that is happening more and more as young drivers are drinking or taking drugs before taking the wheel of a car and more so also they are being destracted by phone , ipods and ipads, they just think they are invincible, sadly they are not.
Reblogged this on Sheri de Grom and commented:
Each day serious injury and death statistics climb due to the marvel of modern technology. Where’s your cell phone when you’re driving?
Thanks for reading yes I agree call a cab, turn the phone off, sort your makeup out before you leave or when you get there, eat and drink at a table not at the wheel. A vehicle is a killing machine so be aware when you are in charge of one.
Thank you for taking time to stop by and leave your thoughts! I am grateful that you are following me, I really am.I am also pleased that you picked that poem it is not typical of my work but it is a very important one with a message that needs to be spread about. Be well be happy and be blessed! xx
A thought provoking poem that should be shared. Important message. My best friends son was killed at eighteen years old when he got into the car of a close friend who had been drinking with him at a party. The friend, (driver) buckled his own belt but failed to buckle Matty’s. While he sat in the car talking to a girl from the party, Matty passed out in the drivers seat unbuckled. His mother got the awful visit from an officer at 3:00 in the morning. His mother’s only son she’s never been right since then. She’s sad and lost and can’t seem to get a grip on life losing her most precious gift. Your life can be altered in a matter of seconds from a wrong decision that is usually made in a drunken stupor. Life’s hard enough throwing decisions our way for us to make in a sobered state of mind. Why make them in a drunken state. We must spread the word to teenagers & tell them these things.
I am so sorry for your friend’s loss, nothing can ever prepare you for the loss of a child. I have three sons all grown and left home I could not even begin to think how I would cope if anything happened to any of them.
This is another thing it is not only the loss of the child it is the effect on the survivors too, broken families guilty friends ( they feel guilty even though guilt is a word that does not apply. )
Every teenager should be shown what can happen if you use a phone, drink or take drugs, do your make up even smoking or eating is distraction. Maybe when they take their test and then again yearly, in fact everyone should watch a film showing the aftermath of a crash, and then listen to the relatives and friends…. Sorry I am on my high horse! Thank you for your interest and thoughts and again I am sorry for your friend.
This is well-written and delivers such an important message. It’s just not worth getting behind the wheel after you’ve been drinking. The damage can be irreparable.
That is some scary stuff! Last week my daughter called me stuck in traffic because there was an overturned car, a school bus and a third vehicle. I immediately did not worry about her but my thoughts went to my husband until I learned he would not be there on his commute. I think a baby was killed but I cannot swear to it. People who drink or do drugs and get behind the wheel is like giving a loaded gun to a toddler.
There will always be those stupid idiots that think a drink helps relax them to drive or that they are able to handle a drink or two. The odds show that it’s the drunk that often survives after killing several others but that may have changed now, though.
There is no safe drink or drug when driving a vehicle. None. Zero. Zilch.
I agree Jackie there is no safe limit, none at all . If you drink or take dope DO NOT DRIVE. Too many lives are thrown on the scrap heap for a moments indulgence.
I am so pleased your daughter was okay, and that your husband was not caught in traffic worrying too! I am sorry to hear of the bad crash though. xxx
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willowdot21 
So not worth the risk, Anything can wait till you get home safely before answering or texting
Yes no phone no drink no drugs in fact you should not smoke or eat really whilst in charge of a deadly weapon you just concentrate on the road and driving.
That’s just it, Too many don’t realize they are behind a weapon, they just think they got gas and brakes and that it would mean control, boy they couldn’t be more wrong ;(
No sad to say you are so right. They should all be made to witness the aftermath of one crash and attend a drink driving funeral. Harsh yes but they need to learn.
Yep, The thing about being human is slow to learn huh?
Yes I just wander if we even have the capacity to learn …..
wise words…but sadly a reality all to often…
two miles up the road from me..2 teenagers, 90+MPH the 14 yr olde was driving with no license, they were both texting..crossed the line head on..a mother and her 7 yrold son…seeing pieces of their life scattered over a mile will never leave my mind…
yes every teenager should see the after math …harsh reality, but might save a few lives…
Good post Willow
Take Care…You Matter…
)0(
maryrose
OH! that is just the sad cruel scenario I am talking about . Unfortunately we are seeing more and more roadside “shrines” and more often than note a photo of a young boy or girl. I am sorry to hear that you had to witness the shreds of life people gone and never coming back. Then you see their friend put beer cans or bottles of beer it makes so angry that is what kills them as much as the car… drink. As for using the mobile it is my pet hate I get so angry when I see people older people too using mobiles while driving……. sorry I must not go on ! Be well Maryrose you matter ! xxxxxxxx
so many deaths thro’ not concentrating on the most important part of driving, watching the road, without distractions. xPenx
Yes Pen they do not seem to realize that they are in charge of a deadly weapon a killing machine! Too many pay with their life. xx
So glad you added the last picture of the phone and driving… I see so many people (even grown ups who should know better) trying to text and try, just talking and driving, looking at a text someone sent them… plus all the alcohol, drugs and dares. It’s heartbreaking how many student’s funerals I’ve gone to in the last 4 or 5 years due to one of these vices… I got bluetooth in my car I can answer, but I’m not budging on the texting or reading them, much less the alcohol and then driving. So many kids have the “It won’t happen to me” opinion, until it does… 😀 Good post!
Oh! this is my pet hate, I see nearly every other driver on the phone in fact today I saw a bus driver in charge of his bus reading from a sheet of paper, it just makes me shudder. Things happen so quickly on the road.
So many young deaths and they do not learn and I hate this new habit they have of putting beer cans or bottle either on their graves or the accident scene! To me that is the ultimate insult, what next, phones , ipads laptops, Thank you I am glad the post has resonated loud and clear! Thanks for your support! 🙂 xx
😀 Thanks!
what for xx
Being you! 😀
Thank you 🙂 🙂
Kelihasablog, well stated! I am in full agreement!
Okay, I am thoroughly exasperated. I have now read three posts of yours and none of them showed in my reader. I know it’s a wp glitch but it makes me crazy. In a second I have to click unfollow and follow again so they’ll start showing up.
Yes I hate it when that happens, I had that only yesterday one bloger I follow had clicked a like on my post and I thought “Ah! I have not seen her for a while” so I went to her site to say hi, only to find none of her posts had been coming to me. I am glad to know you are following me thanks. 🙂
The pleasure is mine in following you. When we make friends here, I tend to worry if I don’t see someone posting, but I know now to go looking occasionally.
Yes it just keeps us on our toes!! 😉
would you mind if I promote this on twitter?
exactly what did you want to promote, I need to know before I answer. 🙂
I really do want to get the message out about this so if you are serious please just let me know.
I would not mind at all
Compelling opening, great concrete imagery.
Thank you this is a sad tale that is happening more and more as young drivers are drinking or taking drugs before taking the wheel of a car and more so also they are being destracted by phone , ipods and ipads, they just think they are invincible, sadly they are not.
Reblogged this on Sheri de Grom and commented:
Each day serious injury and death statistics climb due to the marvel of modern technology. Where’s your cell phone when you’re driving?
Terrible, painful and sad, but well written. Call a cab for heaven’s sake.
Thanks for reading yes I agree call a cab, turn the phone off, sort your makeup out before you leave or when you get there, eat and drink at a table not at the wheel. A vehicle is a killing machine so be aware when you are in charge of one.
Yes, yes and yes. Again. Yes!
🙂
YES!! 🙂
😀
😀
We can do this all night. I’m running out of suitable happy faces.
Sorry I disappeared I had to go to bed (°^°) xxx
Ha ha ha. I like you new sleepy face. Thanks for the idea.
There is always my funky music one @*_+@
*_+ This is someone the morning after the night before.
Oops I see that bleery eyed look. (=\<)
O.o. I LIKE that one. Looks Aztec or some such art form.
EWE! thanks.
I tells it how I sees it, not that I always know what I’m talking about in REAL life, but that’s how I sees it. 😀
I just clicked to follow you I just noticed I am not already………. sorry very remiss of me. :o)
You are most welcome. Saturday nights I share wine with my friends. *_+. Sorry, wrong face. #_#.
well where is my glass!
Oops. I drank yours too? One moment…
😦
This is the biggest red wine glass I have. Enjoy. 🙂
I meant to say thank YOU, as well. Nice to be in good company.
yes it is …my wine??
Sorry. My hostess skills are slipping. Red or white?
RED please!
Good choice. 🙂
I only choose the best! 🙂
I could tell that about you. 😀
😉
🙂 🙂
http://i2.cdn.turner.com/cnn/dam/assets/121207075528-book-wine-glass-story-top.jpg 🙂
Have you tried it yet?
s’wanderful ?? hick ( pardon!) 🙂
Oh my. You DID enjoy it. 😛
🙂
Till next we clink glasses then? 😉
This is so sad!
Yes it is so sad and it is even worse because it is always happening.Thank you for listening. xx
Lovely poem. Am now following you.
Patti
Thank you for taking time to stop by and leave your thoughts! I am grateful that you are following me, I really am.I am also pleased that you picked that poem it is not typical of my work but it is a very important one with a message that needs to be spread about. Be well be happy and be blessed! xx
A thought provoking poem that should be shared. Important message. My best friends son was killed at eighteen years old when he got into the car of a close friend who had been drinking with him at a party. The friend, (driver) buckled his own belt but failed to buckle Matty’s. While he sat in the car talking to a girl from the party, Matty passed out in the drivers seat unbuckled. His mother got the awful visit from an officer at 3:00 in the morning. His mother’s only son she’s never been right since then. She’s sad and lost and can’t seem to get a grip on life losing her most precious gift. Your life can be altered in a matter of seconds from a wrong decision that is usually made in a drunken stupor. Life’s hard enough throwing decisions our way for us to make in a sobered state of mind. Why make them in a drunken state. We must spread the word to teenagers & tell them these things.
I am so sorry for your friend’s loss, nothing can ever prepare you for the loss of a child. I have three sons all grown and left home I could not even begin to think how I would cope if anything happened to any of them.
This is another thing it is not only the loss of the child it is the effect on the survivors too, broken families guilty friends ( they feel guilty even though guilt is a word that does not apply. )
Every teenager should be shown what can happen if you use a phone, drink or take drugs, do your make up even smoking or eating is distraction. Maybe when they take their test and then again yearly, in fact everyone should watch a film showing the aftermath of a crash, and then listen to the relatives and friends…. Sorry I am on my high horse! Thank you for your interest and thoughts and again I am sorry for your friend.
Thanks for addressing these issues! I don’t think we can say enough about them.
No I agree we need to keep plugging away until people listen and learn. Thank you for reading.
This is well-written and delivers such an important message. It’s just not worth getting behind the wheel after you’ve been drinking. The damage can be irreparable.
Thank you it is a subject I feel very strongly about .
That is some scary stuff! Last week my daughter called me stuck in traffic because there was an overturned car, a school bus and a third vehicle. I immediately did not worry about her but my thoughts went to my husband until I learned he would not be there on his commute. I think a baby was killed but I cannot swear to it. People who drink or do drugs and get behind the wheel is like giving a loaded gun to a toddler.
There will always be those stupid idiots that think a drink helps relax them to drive or that they are able to handle a drink or two. The odds show that it’s the drunk that often survives after killing several others but that may have changed now, though.
There is no safe drink or drug when driving a vehicle. None. Zero. Zilch.
I agree Jackie there is no safe limit, none at all . If you drink or take dope DO NOT DRIVE. Too many lives are thrown on the scrap heap for a moments indulgence.
I am so pleased your daughter was okay, and that your husband was not caught in traffic worrying too! I am sorry to hear of the bad crash though. xxx