If we were having coffee: Farewells , Funerals and Life

If we were having coffee:

If we were having coffee:The weather is getting distinctly wintry, fogs, rain, frost and cold so lets all go inside and be comfy by the fire. Paul and I can still entertain you all with tea and coffee from all over the world not to mention all our cakes and muffins and as Paul calls them sweets! Every single one is calorie free! Plus of course we now have spirits and liquors to warm the coldest of you.

If we were having Coffee: I would remind you that there are lots of other coffee mornings all shared and organized By Diana and Gene’O over at,Part time monster

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If we were having coffee: I would have to say take me as you find me, don’t get me wrong I am delighted that you have all come. I truly look forward to these gatherings they are one of my weekly treats. The truth is I am not fully recovered from the funeral.May I speak a little of it? Has every one got the drink of their choice and a cake or biscuit, I am having a hot chocolate with brandy.

If we were having coffee: We all arrived on the Monday, while some of the family where clearing out M’s house and belongings hubby and I had the better task ( though in truth it was not a task at all in fact it was a real pleasure ) of entertaining my cousin and her husband. We went for a walk along the river and talked about M and the family, my cousin’s side of the family ( my mum’s) then we started on Grandparents and great grand parents. In the evening we all went for a meal in a local pub, it was strange to feel so happy and to have all brothers, sisters, in laws, nephews, nieces and children tight around us. Why had we left a gathering like this until the night before the funeral…. why?

The day of the funeral was heartbreaking. I accompanied my sisters and one cousin to see M , I could not stay in the room where she was laid out in the coffin. It hurt me so to see the tiny empty shell, all that was left of my beautiful sister. Then it was like an interminable wait until the actual funeral. I was grateful that all three of our sons came they were a great comfort and support. They made the hubby very proud. Nine out the thirteen nephews, nieces and godchildren came to the funeral, a testimony to how much she was loved. The church was full and everyone stayed after for tea and refreshments, so many people and they all had lovely stories to tell us about our sister M.

In the evening we all went out for another meal to celebrate her life. There were more of us there that night and again it was a happy occasion we all told stories and shared memories . I did wander if this was right to be happy after a funeral. Then after some thought I realized that Mary would be so happy that we were all together and happy.

Afternoon Tea

If we were having Coffee : Well another cuppa anyone? I promise that even though I am still reeling from all of the above I shall not mention it again, unless asked I know it happens to us all and that it happens all day every day but it is the first time I have lost a sibling.

If we were having coffee: I would say that the rest of this week after Wednesday have past , shopping , cleaning, going to the gym, cooking. I have made it thus far and no doubt I shall come out the other side and get on with life.

We have also over the last month had a new kitchen installed, it is beautiful and when I can concentrate on it I shall show you it… it is not finished yet.