He’s Out There ln The Garden.

Today is my brother in law’s Birthday. He probably doesn’t know it because he has Alzheimer’s/ Dementia.

My sister looked after him at home for as long as she could but he is now in a home, his condition got too difficult for her to cope with.

I have written quite a few poems on his and others sharing this plight. In his honour and all carers and sufferers I have taken two of my poems and reworked them into one.

Happy Birthday John. © willowdot21

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He is out in the garden with the secateurs again
The flowers are looking nervous and hoping it will rain.

The airing cupboard is wearing a smile
He’s is busy elsewhere so it has peace for a while.

We need to eat, it must be time for dinner.
We have just eaten, have a biscuit, that’s always a winner.

How cruel, how mean, how so unkind
To leave a feeble body and take a beautiful mind.

There are no words that can truly describe
The pain and fear of those trapped, dead, yet still alive.

You can not reason, they know no rhyme
They are gone from us left behind.

The tiny flashes of a knowing eye is just a mockery
Your loved one is no longer who they used to be.

Screams of anger, voices harsh with fists of hate
You try so hard, you have so much on your plate.

There is no more that you can in all honesty do
They may be gone. Can you hold your patience and to their love be true.

He is out in the garden with the secateurs again
The flowers are looking nervous and hoping it will rain.

Tiredness, Birthdays, Washing , Thank yous and Good Luck to all.

Goodbye Mexico

Hello England

Well it’s back down to reality with a bang! Home yesterday after eight and a half hour flight. Having had only a short nap on the plane,we were tired. The sun was shining (a rarity here of late) so I got all the holiday washing on the go. Then we found out the Mother in Law, who was 98yrs old yesterday had nothing planned neither hubby’s brother or sister was doing anything to celebrate with her! So we abandoned all hope if sleep and took her out for an Indian meal early evening. She was pleased and enjoyed herself and was spoilt. So after being on the go for 23hrs we finally got to bed 😱!

Today I should of gone to Pilates at 9am but we did not wake up until 10.30am ( I wonder why) so Pilates was out. Well it was hubby’s birthday, yes the day after his Mum’s! So I gave him his pressie and made breakfast. Our middle son who had a day off took us out for lunch as a treat for his Dad! Then we went and got Ruby back from our sister in law and her hubby ( no longer a sister-in-law but dearly loved friend) they always look after Ruby when we are away.

We took Ruby for a walk then had tea then a busy evening sorting things. Hubby rang or texted everyone thanking them for their cards and wishes.

So I only had a chance to check my mail an hour ago. Guess what there was a lovely nomination badge waiting for me… As you can see after wracking my brain I did remember how to put it up on my blog woohoo!

So that has finished of a great day perfectly. All that leaves me to say is thank you to whoever nominated me and another thank you to whoever may have voted for me I am truly honoured and grateful. We have not got much longer to wait to find out who the winners are. I want to wish everyone who was nominated lots of Good Luck and I look forward to meeting those of you who are attending the ABB on the nineteenth….. Not long now.

Well it’s nearly 00.46 and I need to sleep so I must go to bed. I know I am behind reading all your Posts and I am behind with writing too but please bare with me and I shall do my best to catch up with you all.💜💜💜

Above, tired me! Night Night all 💜💜💜💜

IF WE WERE HAVING COFFEE: GARDENS, BIRTHDAYS AND CANALS

Come on I am ready for coffee!

 

Hello  everyone  welcome  to  the garden  we have a marquee  and  heaters, all the garden  furniture  has  been washed  and  I have put out cushions for your  comfort.

Well what  do  you  think  shall  we  chance  it . Now  as  always  we have  tea  and coffee  from all over  the world not to mention all our cakes  and muffins  and  as Paul  calls  them sweets! Every single  one  is  calorie  free! Plus of course  we now have spirits  and liquors  to warm the coldest of  you.

If we were having  Coffee: I would ask  you what  has been going on in your world this week, has  anything  deeply affected  you, have  you need a sympathetic ear, a shoulder to cry  on or  just  needed someone  to make  you laugh! If  yes  feel free to talk it out  here  with us. We will all help if  we can.

If we were having Coffee: I would  remind  you  that  there  are lots of  other  coffee mornings  all shared  and organized  By  Diana  and  Gene’O  over at,Part time monster  

If  we were having Coffee:  Well it has been  a busy  week  and I have  quite  a lot  to report  but  firstly  let me  get  you  all settled  down  with  a drink  and something  to eat . So far  this  week  I have  been to the  gym  four  times (  not  as  much  as usual) I have today  off  because my trainer  is on holiday  in Crete  and  so I  don’t have  to go  to Core  Class …Excuse  me  while I  let  a whoop  of  joy! As  much as  I  take  my training  seriously  and I realize that  if  I  don’t  go my  back  will suffer  I am always  happy  to have a day off!

Monday  I had  to  go  to the  dentist  which  is  not much  fun  and hard  on the purse! We  do have NHS  dentists which  patients  do pay  for  but  at a much reduced  rate. It  is hard  to get on to  their  books  so  many people including us   have  to use  private  dentists  who  are much  more  expensive ! But  that is  life isn’t it.

If  we were having Coffee: On Wednesday  the husband  and I decided  to  go  for  a walk along  a  canal near  where  we live. The  weather  was lovely  and  we  saw  some cows  ducks, swans  and  lots of  narrow  boats. We  were  lucky  enough  to be  at  a lock  just  as  a narrow boat  approached  so  we sat  on  the bench  and watched  their  progress  through the lock.  We  had a chat  with  the people  on the  boat  who  said  they  had  been  living on the  boat  for  six  month  periods  but  were  seriously  thinking of  making it permanent. They had  both  given up  work  and if  they  were  not  too extravagant they  managed  very  well. They  had a little  dog   and  also  a 6 week old duck  which  they  had  adopted  the  day it had  hatched ( no  parents) and  were considering  renaming  the  boat  The  Dog  and Duck ! We had  to smile  as that  is a common  name  for a pub.

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The Duck

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Deep in the lock

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A gull in flight

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The Cows that tried to block our path

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Two beautiful Swans

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The lock filling up.

It  was  a lovely  day,  the  weather  was fantastic   and  we  enjoyed  the people  and  animals  we  met,  though  the  Cows were  rather large! But  I  just  firmly  asked  they  to  move  and  they  did …I  think they  were  just  showing off! After  we had  had our  walk  we had  a lovely  pub  lunch! It  was a wonderful  day out  with the husband,  who  all credit  to him  had  planned it  from  start  to  finish!

If  we  were having  Coffee : Its  time  to bore  you  with  the  weekly  garden  pictorial  update.

 

 

 

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The Rockery

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More of the rockery

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Bushes

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Flowering Bush

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The old white Rose tree

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Our Raised Bed

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Potatoes and Beans

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Close up

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Tomato soldiers

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Beans in the pot

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The roses out the front.

As  you  can see  everything is  growing  well …. please  note  I  know  the names of  all my  plants NOT!!

If  we  were having coffee : 

I  tell  you  that o  Thursday  my  friend  L  and  I  went over  to  visit  my  sort of  sister  ( best  friends for  49yrs) to  celebrate her up coming  birthday  later  this month. Last  Thursday  was  the only  day  we could  all get together  so  we  went  to  Windsor   and  had  afternoon  tea! Just Like  proper ladies!

After  tea  we had  a look round  the shops !! Again it was a lovely  day  so  had fun chatting  as  we walked!

Now If  we were having  coffee : I  don’t  want  you getting  the idea   that I am an airhead with nothing  better  to do  than swan around  having  lunch  and tea  (  as  much as I would  like  to)  I am  a normal busy  woman with lots of ups  and downs in my  life. Family  , friends, life in general  throws  all the usual grief  and trials  my  way  I just  choose  to  try and  keep  them off of  my  coffee  days  with  you my  friends. I  am aware of  all the awful  things  happening  around  the  world  and near  to home  here in England. I do  mention these  things on occasion   but  mostly  I  hope I  can entertain you  with  the happier  side of  life  like  these!

Little monsters

Right  Lets  go  and visit  Paul  and his  friends  they are  all having  fun here  too lets  see  what  , interesting,  thought provoking   and happy  stories  Paul  has  for us  today. Do  all stay  and  be comfortable   we love  to see  you  all.

And of course  the

IF WE WERE HAVING COFFEE:  WEEKEND COFFEE SHARE

over at Part Time  Monster  and Gene’O’s

 

 

 

 

 

 

If we were having Coffee: Birthdays, Babies, Boys, and A to Z

 Welcome one, Welcome all.

If  we  were having  Coffee  :  time  again to ask how  are  you all are   and  what  have  you been up  to this  week!  Come in it is lovely  to see you all here again. The fires are lit and  the cushions are plumped up and  we have  the coffee and tea on  the go  and the cakes and sweets are all set out.  We  have  tea  and coffee  from all over  the world not to mention all our cakes  and muffins  and  as Paul  calls  them sweets! Every single  one  is  calorie  free! Plus of course  we now have spirits  and liquors  to warm the coldest of  you.

If we were having  Coffee: I would ask  you what  has been going on in your world this week, has  anything  deeply affected  you, have  you need a sympathetic ear, a shoulder to cry  on or  just  needed someone  to make  you laugh! If  yes  feel free to talk it out  here  with us. We will all help if  we can.

If we were having Coffee: I would  remind  you  that  there  are lots of  other  coffee mornings  all shared  and organized  By  Diana  and  Gene’O  over at,Part time monster  

If  we  were having  Coffee  : Yesterday was  a  long  but  happy  day, it  was  my  hubby’s birthday and  our eldest  son  organised a special  family  lunch, out in  the  country  down  in  his part  of  the  world. It  was extra  special  because   all three  boys  were  able  to attend   as  was  the husband’s  mother. The  Newbie  and  his  Mum  did  not  come  but it  would  of  been  a lot of  travelling   and a  long  day  for  the  Newbie.  We all met  up on  a pub  on  the South Downs  an  had  a lovely  meal. It  was  a delight  to have  all my   four men in  one  place at  the  same  time!

If  we  were having  Coffee  : Now  there  was  something  else  that  happened  yesterday on  Hubby’s  birthday  …what  was it ??? OH!  yes  ! William  and Kate  have  taken delivery  of  their  second  baby! Right  Kate  job  done  an Heir  and  a Spare! Parliament made  sure  when  George  was on  his  way  that  he  been a  girl  he  would  still  be  able  to  become  Monarch in  line. So  as  with  most  things  it is  one in  one out   and  Princess Eugenie    will  be toppled  of  her perch  at 7th  in line  to  the  throne… I  wonder  if  the  fact  that  she  no  longer  has  to  ask  the  Queen  permission  to  marry  will affect  her.

Well  the  Cambridge’s went  home  from  the  Lindo  Wing  of  St Mary’s  Hospital  Paddington  hours  after  the  birth. I  had  to  smile  when  a  TV  newsman  wondered  how  they  would  cope  their  first  night  home  having  to  look  after  two  babies  under  three? Well I  can assure  you  that  they  would of  had  plenty  of  help  with  royal  aides,Nannies, Nurses  and a  Dr  on  hand. Not  like  when  us  mere  mortals  go  home  from hospital,  with  no help,  apart  from a  as scared  as you  husband ,  and  in our  case  two  children  under  two years. In fact  we left  it eight years until  we had  any  more  children .

 

Careful in those high heels Kate precious cargo!

Wooho,  high  heels , new  dress  full  make up  and  hair  freshly  done…. we  all looked  like  that after  we had  just  had  babies..well no  we  did not  but  we don’t   have a battery  of  stylists  and hairdressers.  Seriously   Kate  way  to  go.

If  we  were having coffee: I  say  good luck  for the  Paul  we hope  t all goes  well and  that  you  will soon  be warm , comfy  and cosy  in you new  DRY  flat. We all hope your new  apartment  will  suit  you  well Paul.

If  we  were having coffee: On  a  personal  not  I  delighted  to  say  that  I  did  complete  the  A to Z April Challenge   by  writing  a Nonet  a  day for  the  entire  month  excepting  Sundays  when  we were  allow a day off! I  was not  brave  enough  to  sign  up   but  I  was allowed  to use  the  logo,  which I  wore  with  pride. Even though I  called  my  posts  Not  The  A  to  Z Challenge, I did  them every  day  and  I met  many  brilliant  bloggers  and  read  some  amazing  posts! I  shall  be braver  next  year  and  sign  up   and  do it legitimately!

So  many  fabulous  blogs  too  many  to  mention!

If  we  were  having  coffee  : I  would  ask if you  could  do  with a  refill and  a cake. I  must  close  now  so  lets  go  and join  Paul  and  all his  guests they  are all enjoying  themselves  by  the fire!

And of course  the

IF WE WERE HAVING COFFEE:  WEEKEND COFFEE SHARE

over at Part Time  Monster  and Gene’O’s

More coffee anyone?

 

 

 

Black and Pink , whatya think?

My hair is pink and black ,

What do you make of that!

You may think I am a prat

I even bought  a Trilby hat!

 

I just suddenly felt really edgy

It was when I hit sixty

I didn’t want to be a veggie

I needed to be nifty !!

 

So what was I to do

I needed to make  my mark

No I did not want a tattoo

Still I wanted something to make me spark!

 

Today while out shopping

I was asked why have you gone black and pink

Is it because I can, I’m not out just to be shocking

No, I thought, for once in my life I want to be show stopping.

 

Is it because I am older  that suddenly I have become bolder

I really do not know I just wanted my hair to glow

I am sick of never being seen,  I am here watch me smolder.

I just want to live, we make our fates I know.

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That’s not me in the picture  but the hairstyle is almost the same and I have gone pink and black. So for now there is no turning back.

Oh! and will you think me naughty  if  tell you my oldest son, tomorrow will be forty!

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