Throwback Thursday # 64 Spaces and Places.

Maggie is again, stepping in for Lauren this week. Today we are going to amble around through the places of our youth.

This week’s prompt is: Spaces and Places

Did you grow up in an urban or a rural environment?

I grew up in an urban area, London born and bred.

How would you describe the geographic area where you lived?

One the boarders of W5 and Middlesex. Lots of houses ,shops and even then traffic. There was a large park across the road, it was part of the Rothchild estate.

West Ealing Woolworths 1960s

West Ealing 1960s photo from

Was it mostly buildings or mostly trees?

Mostly buildings but it was a “leafy suburb”

Four seasons, or always warm or cold?

We had four seasons and often in one day!

What about the place in which you resided? Was it a house, an apartment, a mobile home, a boat, or something else?

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We lived in a terrace council house with three bedrooms, one bathroom a tiny garden out the back there was a kitchen with a coal hole, a front room and a backroom and just inside the door was a pantry.. it was mostly full of family and friends. The photo above is of it as it looks now so slightly different to how it really was.

Did you like it and do you miss it now?

I did it was home and I do sometimes miss it but it’s more the people that made that home that I miss.
I don’t miss the winters they were so cold we had ice on the inside of the windows!

What about the bedroom you had in the home? Did you share it with someone or did you have it all to yourself?

Mainly I shared it with three sisters, multiple cousins and the occasional waif and stray who was staying over. We did actually have the largest room in the house because there were always more of us!

If you shared, with whom? How was the space decorated?

I answered this above…how was it decorated?

Mainly my sister’s chose how to have it doe but it was not decorated often.
I remember once my sister Frankie suggested we cut adverts and coloured pictures out of fashion magazines …we pasted them on to a long wall and made a huge collage it looked amazing…I was about eight at the time and I thought it was so cool. Very like the wall in the photo below.

Photo by Brett Sayles on Pexels.com


Another time she got Dad to build window seats and she upholstered them with red and cream regency stripes and she bought deep blue flock wallpaper with her own money and she hung that up herself too. My two older sisters left home by the time I was 5 so I don’t remember their tastes. Not long before I left home to get married , my brother’s and all but one sister had left home so I got a small room to myself. I decorated it orange and purple.
I also painted a mural on my white wordrobe doors
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When you did family activities at home, in what room did you spend your time?

In the room we called the back room. It was the livingroom really. We only had fireplaces downstairs in the front and back rooms so we all huddle round the fire in winter.

What did you do together? TV? Cards? Board Games? Reading?

All of the above. Though we did not get a TV until I was thirteen.

Did your friends’ living situation seem similar to your own?

Yes , some were better and some were worse

Did you prefer to be at your friend’s home or did you prefer your own?

I liked both.

Did your friends like to hang out at your house?

Yes it was always busy.

What kind of school did you attend?

A convent school.

Large or small? Religious or secular? Public or private?

Medium and Religious.

Did you attend church, synagogue, temple, or some other religious facility? If so was it large and ornate, or small and homey? Did you feel comfortable there?

We attended Catholic church our parish church was small and comfy.
Some of the other ones we attended were much bigger and ornate. I did not like them as much .

Did you have a hang out spot? Skating rink? Mall? Burger joint? Bowling alley? Friend’s house?

We didn’t have shopping Malls then, but all the others yes except the ice-rink but usually spent more time in the park or garden.

Where did you typically go on dates (if you dated)? Movies? Out to a restaurant? At home watching tv? Library? Gym? Dances? Clubs? Mall?

The park, at friends houses, or our houses we didn’t do much that cost money because we didn’t have much to spare.

What kind of place did you live in when you first moved away from home.

When we got married we bought a two bedroom maisonette , basically a down stairs flat with a huge garden. We had our own front door into a front garden. It looked like a semi detached house but it was four maisonettes.

Was it a big adjustment or were you ready to strike out

Yes it was a huge adjustment, I was only 17 years and had gone from the family home.
At times I was scared and wondered what had I done…. But on the whole I was ready.

Describe your first place.

The pictures below is a photo of our first how it is now. Sadly we don’t have any photos of it when we lived there. We lived in the downstairs maisonette. We had a tree and crazy paving out the front.

Out the back we had a huge narrow garden of about 60 yards. With apple trees, pear tree, and plum trees. There was also a pond. Under the pond was a disused WW2 air raid shelter… Full of water from the pond.

If you open the door you found yourself in a small hallway under the stairs, the living room was to your left and was the shape of a thrupenny piece.,old money, with a fireplace, two doors and a bay window quite a challenge to arrange furniture.

Then going through the secon door there was another square hall to the left was bedroom , to the right a small hall off of which was the bathroom and our bedroom, the kitchen was across the hall from the lounge. We were very happy there. Over 51 years ago .

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Throwback Thursday Suds,Bubs and Vino.

This week Lauren is in charge of Throwback Thursday This week’s prompt is: Suds, Buds, and Vino

1) Did you grow up in a family that had beer or wine at family meals? Were either beverages part of your parent’s “relaxation” time?

My mum was teatotal really  I don’t think I ever saw her have a drink maybe a sip at celebrations. Dad an Irish man was a Guinness man and used to go to the local pub or local club for a Guinness. He prefered the bottled Guinness to the draft unless we were visiting Ireland  where he always drank the draught.
My elder brothers and sisters all would have a drink at celebrations or parties. There was always drink in the house but it was not abused.

2) Was wine consumed as part of religious or family celebrations? If so, when?

We were a Catholic family  the Catholic communion was the priest would hand out the holy host (the bread) then he would drink the wine. In the sixties the Vatican decided it would be a better experience for the whole congregation to receive both the bread and wine , as the Protestant Church had always done. So 1st April 1963 the wine became part of the sacrament.  (Yes I did say April 1st) 

3) Were you allowed to have a “sip” of the adult beverages?

On high days and holidays unlike the dog Steve who got drunk at every opertunity!

4) When you were a teenager did it bother you that your parents had one set of behaviors, yet you were expected to have another?

No we just accepted things in those days.

5) When you were in high school, did you or your friends drink alcohol? If you were underaged, how did you acquire the booze?

I was not fourteen when I met my husband but I did have a Saturday/holiday job in a boutique. I had access to drink when I joined work colleagues, or if I was out with hubby who was three years older than me we’d sit outside in the pub garden and the older members of the group would buy the rounds.

6) Were you offered marijuana or other drugs while in high school? If you chose to partake, did it get you into trouble, or were you never caught?

I can honestly say I have never smoked marijuana or taken any non prescription drug in my life…. Scardy cat! And I have seen the deviation it causes.

7) Did you ever get too drunk or too high to function? How did your body react to that?

Strangely enough I never really got really drunk until I was in my thirties! Only once!  my legs did not work nor did my mouth or brain and I was sick 🤢 for a couple of days ! Thankfully I have only been happily tipsee since!

8) Have your opinions about taking drugs and drinking alcohol changed over time? Are you more conservative or more liberal than you were in your youth?

I really did not take much notice when I was young . It was all around me and I saw some shocking sights. I did see many lives ruined. In fact I had a friend in school she was popular, pretty, clever and came from a caring family. She was dead before she was sixteen. Her death and others that I knew  hardened my attitude. I believe all drugs including marijuana should all be banned and illegal. If you need Marijuana or cannabis oil  for cancer or pain it should be available on prescription. I do not bang on about it but that’s how I feel. It ruins lives not just the addict but their families and friends.

9) If applicable, did you raise your children with the same beliefs that you grew up with?

Yes I did my very best.

10) If you had any input over alcohol or marijuana laws would you change them?

I have seen many lives ruined by Alcohol and drugs …but sadly I think you can have as many laws as you like but you cannot stop people who want to kill themselves they will always find away.

Throwback Thursday: Saying Hello and Goodbye .

Maggie is in charge of Throwback Thursday this week. She was in Florida visiting family and I flew home today. She said: “I am already dreading saying goodby to my family. These thoughts are what inspired the topic this week.”

Which is : Saying Hello and Goodbye.

Did you live close by or far away from close family or grandparents?

I never knew my father’s parents they were born in Dublin as were my father and his brothers and sisters ….. They did move to England and settled in Manchester.
My Mum’s parents were from Oxford and I think I met them once.
I was the youngest of nine children and my parents did not marry young.

How often did you see or visit extended family?
We used to visit my Dad’s brother who lived a bus ride away in Chiswick quite often. ….the rest of Dad’s family lived in Manchester so we usually visited there once or twice a year.
We didn’t visit my mum’s elder brother much he was not very nice to her….appears in the end he lived very near to us but never got in touch by with mum…there by hangs a tail for another day. We visited Uncle Reg (Mums next brother) and Aunty Gladys who lived in Oxford a couple of times a year and they visited us too. My cousin Anne who was about 15/16 years older than me had a daughter who I always thought was my cousin ( until I got older) we were very close and still are and Summer holidays were mostly spent together, two weeks in Oxford and two weeks in London.

Was the coming together cheerful and celebrated in some way?
It was always wonderful to visit or be visited there were always big family get togethers, with food, drink , singing and dancing!

Which relative did you enjoy seeing the most? Why?
All of them really!

Were there relatives you dreaded visiting? If so, why?
No none at all .

If you were the visitor, was the trip short and easy or was it a journey?
It was always a journey, we were in London, so it was a coach ride to Oxford or a train journey to Manchester, even uncle Tony who lived in Chiswick which meant a bus or tube and a walk.

Were your visits short or extended? If extended visits, where did you sleep? Bed, sofa bed, couch, floor?
Oxford and Manchester were extended visits, too far for a day trip?
In Oxford I shared a bed with Lindy the rest of the family would sleep where ever they could, double up in beds, floors, sofas…same when they visited us and also when we visited Manchester or when they visited us it was sleep where you could!

When it came time to leave, was it difficult to say goodbye?
Yes indeed it was for everyone.

How often do you visit extended family now?
We have over the years had lots of get-togethers but now adays there are less and less alive and the pandemic has made sure we have not mixed as much as we had in the past…. Weddings, and Funerals, Big Birthdays and other occasions we still meet up but these days they are more close family dos. Though hubby and I are meeting up with my cousin Lindy and her hubby next week 💜

If you could see a relative who is no longer alive, who would it be? Why?
Mum, Dad, my sister Mary who I miss dearly and my eldest brother Timothy who I never met. 💜 As I said I miss them so .

© willowdot21. Mum and Dad.
© willowdot21 Mary and Me.

Throwback Thursday: Family Meal Rituals.

This week’s prompt is: Family Meal Rituals and comes from Maggie. As you know Throwback Thursday is Maggie and Lauren’s brainchild…they are both back this week after a short break. Welcome back Ladies.

So Maggie said : “I will give you some questions to help you along. Or, free write if you would rather. You can either respond in the comments or link back to this post. My response will follow.”

Let’s start at the top of the day, breakfast! Did your family have a sit down breakfast or were you more grab and go? What beverages were served at breakfast? What was your favorite (and/or least favorite) breakfast meal?

Breakfast was considered the most important meal of the day in my childhood. When we were all small, we the others not me so much as I was way behind the others, breakfast was a sit down in the front room. As we all grew and had different places to get to , school, college, kindergarten or work it became a relay in the kitchen . There was a blue cupboard/ dresser in there that had a pull out or fold down table incorporated in it….we could manage anything from two to four people ar a time!
Sunday was mostly a formal sit down affair.
Least likely breakfast…boiled eggs, always too runny or too hard.
Porridge not a big favourite either.
I used to love cornflakes and toast and marmalade 💜💜

Did you snack before the mid-day meal?

No not really. At least I don’t remember.

Lunch for most children was eaten at school with the exception of weekends, holidays, or summer vacation. At school, did you buy your lunch from the cafeteria, or did you pack lunch?

I can remember in Junior school having school dinners….they were mediocre at best….lumpy mash, lumpy custard, but there were sausages, and roast potatoes and of course jam rolly poly pudding and custard…nice. When I went to the senior part of the school I took a packed lunch. Sandwiches, apples and in the winter a flask of soup.
Occasionally I went home for lunch, to get away from bullying girls…the walk there and back was about 40 mins leaving me twenty minutes to see mum and eat maybe something on toast. I got me out of school though.

In high school, were you allowed to leave school grounds during the lunch period?

Only with express permission if I was going home I had to have permission.

For times when you had lunch at home, was it sandwiches, leftovers, or a newly prepared meal?

It would be all of the above depending on time according to time.

The evening meal is usually the most formal meal in many homes. Did your family sit down together and enjoy the evening meal or were you more of a TV dinner in front of the TV family?

Dad got in at about 5.30/ 6pm and we all sat down and ate together.

How did your weekend meals differ from your weekdays?

Well Saturday was busy so lunch was a free for all but the evening meal was a family affair.

Sunday was usually breakfast after Church toast and cereal then dinner was at 2pm big roast dinner with all the trimmings, gravy, a sauce reliant to the meat followed by pudding. Tea would be bread and jam, sandwiches or toast

Who did most of the cooking in your household? Did that person also do the meal planning and grocery shopping? Were you taught to cook or were you shoo’d out of the kitchen?

Mum did it all but we all helped, preparing peeling veg and after we did the washing and drying up and cleaned the cooker.
Mum planned all the meals, usually: Roast Sunday, cold meat and bubble and squeak Monday, beef casserole Tuesday, Wednesday was chops or toad in the hole, Thursday liver and bacon, Friday fish, Saturday what ever was about!
Mum taught us all to cook and shop and bake.
Exceptions: Every of Wimbledon fortnight except for Sunday we had salad… Mum loved tennis!
Sometimes on a Friday we had fish and chips from the chippy at the top of our road.

Did you have dessert served at your meals? If so, what types?
Not always but mum did her best with what she had…Rice pudding, summer pudding, fruit pies and crumbles, jam rolly poly, treacle pudding, treacle tart, jam tart, fruit and carnation cream,lots of custard, occasionally cream. All very tasty.

Who cleaned up after meals? Was it a shared responsibility between men/women, girls/boys or was it delegated based on gender?.
We all had to help though some were less willing than others!

How about late night snacks? Okay or discouraged?
Usually toast or creals depending on if we had enough milk or toast. Though mum usually had cakes or biscuits she’d made in the cupboard.

Were dining manners stressed in your household? No elbows on the table, no hats at the table, no belching, please, thank you, and may I be excused?

All of the above Dad was very strict and we were all excepted to be sitting quietly when he sat down . Then we had to say grace …..then we had to be on our best behaviour!

Did you have occasions where you had large family gatherings for meals? What occasions?

Birthdays, Christmas, Easter, New Year. There were so many of us living in that house plus waifs and strays that every meal was a huge occasion?

Did you say grace or have a blessing before meals?

Yes always.

Now for the fun part. What dishes are you glad disappeared over the years? What dishes have you carried forward into your own home?

I don’t miss casseroles, but make stews instead..
Really l still make a lot of meals that were made in my childhood.

BONUS: Care to share any favorite family recipes?
If you want any just ask if I wrote them all down I’d be here another couple of hours 💜💜💜

Throwback Thursday Slang.

Its Lauren’s turn to pick our subject prompt for Throwback Thursday, the brainchild of Maggie and Lauren .

This week’s prompt is: Slang
I think this should be no sweat, but I’ll provide some questions to help you along. You can always free write if you’d rather.

What were the words you would have used to describe something cool or popular.

Fab, Gear, Smart, Chic, Far out, Groovy.


How about those things that were uncool?

Square, Old hat , Dated, Sad,
What were the hairstyles of the day?

Cilla Black Bob I still wear it, fringe or centre parting with longer hair, the twiggy cut, Prtula Clarke cut oh! Yes and the afro and the page boy must look for a photo of the afro….I wore them all.


Did they have a name everyone used to reference them?

A Bob, curtains, a Petula and a twiggy.
What were the styles of the time?

Mini , Maxi, Midi, Paisley, Op Art, tie dye, bell bottoms, Flairs, ect! Platform shoes , Stilettos , Doc Martens
What word would you have used to describe something distasteful?

Naff, Square, Old Hat. Boring
What about peers you were not fond of or were not part of your tribe?

Geeks, Swats, Oddballs
Any phrases you remember that were used (or overused)?

Man, Fab,Gear, Outasight, Groovy Baby,

Throwback Thursday #53 – It’s A Formal Affair.

It’s time for Throwback Thursday again , Lauren and Maggie’s brainchild . This week it’s Lauren’s turn and she said. “While most of us grew up with school clothes and play clothes, there were occasionally those special clothes, aka glad rags. Clothes can bring up strong memories and emotions.”

Strangly I don’t remember much about dressing up for special occasions….I know I was supposed to have been bridesmaid for my eldest sister.. unfortunately I had scarlett fever and was in bed on the day and missed my bridesmaid’s debute.

I always had a new out fit for Christmas, Easter and my birthday often made by my sister Frankie. She was always an accomplished needlewoman and had an eye for style. Below one of my clever sister’s creations, a grey A line dress with bell sleeves, a red tartan bib and red piped around the bell sleeves. I was nine or ten.

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I don’t remember funerals when I was younger but I must of attended a few. I sure mum would of had us all looking smart. We definitely would of all had a bath and had our hair washed the night before.

I have been a bridesmade many times in the family…all shades of pastel which never suited me! The dresses were usually satin .

The above photos are just two that I own there were at least another four but I don’t have them! The colour photo was Nov 1966 I was thirteen , black and white one was 1969 the dresses and head scafs were lilac edged with white lace, I was the one in the middle 💜💜 they all involved a trip to the hairdresser’s!

We didn’t have proms in my day and anyway I left school at fifteen and went into an apprenticeship as a window dresser, following Frankie into the fashion trade, she was a designer. But I do have a picture of me at about sixteen at the first party I went to with hubby. It was a long pasely print, high neck , rouched bodice legomtton sleeves and it was pink and blue , I loved that dress. The dog on my lap was my soon to be sister in law’s mother’s dog!

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I did my own hair and make up and I was pleased with the outcome 🤣🤣…. actually what do I look like??

Well that all for now folks .

This is part of Lauren and Maggie’s Throwback Thursday.

Throwback Thursday #52 – Transitions and Modifications

Welcome to Throwback Thursday the brainchild of Lauren and Maggie. This week it’s Maggie’s turn and she said : “Here we are again, taking a trip back in time. This week might take a little memory work to recall a few things, but it should be fun. Part of growing up is finding you own way of self expression. This comes about in many ways so think back. Are you ready? If you care to join us, it’s easy.”

This week’s prompt is: Transitions and Modifications

Think about your first haircut. Were you the kid that cut your own hair? Did you go to a salon or did your parents cut your hair? Did your parents save a lock of your hair?

Right…. Mum was a hairdresser before she married dad she actually had her own salon in Oxford. Like most little girls in those days I had long hair and every night mum would tie it in rags so as to produce long thick ringlets. The trouble was it was a very uncomfortable process and I hated it!
As I got older mum would always cut my hair as she had everyone else in the family. She even did my first perm …. A disaster, I got really teased about that. When I was about thirteen I got my first professional cut at a salon I had a Cilla Black cut! Not unlike the style I have now. In between I have had all sorts and colours!

How about shaving? Fathers often teach their sons to shave. Most girls I know, decided for themselves when to shave their legs and their underarms. Some cultures do not shave at all.

My sister’s gave me tips on when and how to shave , though we also used to use Immac Cream which is now called Veet Cream a lot safer than a razor .

Did you alter your clothes? Cut jeans into cut-offs? Cut the sleeves off t-shirts? Wear graphic tees? Tie-dyes? Sew patches on your jeans?

I used to buy Jeans then sit in the bath until they shrank to my size. I did a lot of tie-dyed, cut off T-shirts and jeans too.

Was there a time you remember challenging the authority in your household. Do you remember the first time you found your voice?

No not really….I can remember arguments with mum …. But never with Dad . I might of muttered behind his back but never to his face.

What about piercings? Girls getting their ears pierced was a rite of passage for girls. Then boys started getting one ear pierced. As time passed, piercings became more mainstream and accepted.

I never had piercings even to this day I have no piercings.

Did you walk on the wild side? Smoking? Drinking? Did your parents know?

Yes I tried both but I was married by seventeen.
At first I didn’t tell my parents but as I got older they knew. I stopped smoking in my late thirties and never looked back.

What about tattoos? Did you get a tattoo while still living at home? Did your parents approve?

Never wanted a tattoo I don’t think any of my brothers or sisters had them either. Two of my son’s have them .

What about language? Was swearing allowed in your family? Did you use the same language around your friends as you did at home with your family?

We were not allowed to swear or blasphem. We also had to speak correctly. Again I found people would take against me if I spoke correctly and they would call me posh . Yes I did speak differently with friends and school to when I was at home.

Think back to high school. Girls, did you iron your hair? Did you color your hair? (using Sun-in counts!) Guys, did you grow a beard or moustache? Did you grow your hair long? Feel free to share a photo of yourself back in the day.

I was definitely au natural at school, we were taught by nuns!!

Many people think our authentic self is the person we were as young children. Are you still inherently the same person you were as a child or have you changed your personality and demeanor along the way?

I am what I am always was and always will be. What you see is what you get …. perhaps a little wiser and definitely a lot older. Now I colour my hair and my nails Dad would call me a painted lady if he saw me now.

Throwback Thursday #51 – Learning New Skills.

It’s Lauren’s turn at bat for Throwback Thursday. She said ” I’ve been pulling my hair out trying to think of something Maggie and I have not done before. I know we’ve talked about learning to drive, learning to cook, and learning to swim. I am going to follow that path and ask about your childhood approach to learning new skills.. As kids we are exposed to a huge variety of learning experiences. We can never succeed unless we  are willing to make a commitment to the process.”

  1. When did you learn to ride a bike? Were you self-taught or did someone teach you? Any major injuries on the way? Did you master the skill? Do you still ride? If applicable, did you teach your kids?

I must have been about three when I got the family trike handed down from everyone else…. I think I was seven when I got the old hand me down black and silver two wheeler. Dad taught me to ride that bike over in Gunnersbury Park. I fell off many a time but I don’t think I ever hurt myself badly, just the odd cuts and bruises. I don’t remember having another bike or going any great distances on one.
I helped to teach all the boys to ride, the all rode their bikes a lot. When our youngest was small I had a seat on the back of my bike and ferry him all over the place. Eventually the roads got too dangerous and I learned to drive!

  1. Did you learn to play a musical instrument? At what age? Who taught you? How often did you practice? Were you in band at school? How good were you? Do you still play? If applicable, did you encourage your kids to play?

I learned the recorder, we were all in the school orchestra…I was awful, didn’t practice because I drove everyone hairless at home! I wished I had learned an instrument as I love music.
The boys are all musical, goodness knows where that came from. The eldest has been in bands and still makes electronic music . The middle lad is like me but did try to learn guitar during lockdown. The youngest son went to the Guildford Academy of Music and got his degree in sound engineering and mixing. He was also in the church choir for years.

  1. Did you sing in a choir in church or at school? At what age? How often did you practice? Did you enjoy it? How good were you? Do you still sing with others?

Yes again we were all in the school choir , I love singing still do, I don’t think I am any good but it makes me happy. Everyone else can wear earplugs!

  1. Did you have formal instructions on speaking a second language? Were you fortunate enough to be raised in a house with two or more languages? Did you learn a second language in school? Are you fluent in more than one language?

I learned French and Latin at school I tried hard but Latin foxed me and the Nun that taught by it disliked me!
I learned some German and Italian with one of my sister’s. I can get by in those three languages but really I am not fluent in them 💜

  1. Did you to play on a sports team or learn martial arts? At what age did you start? Did a parent become a coach? Did you practice at home? Do you still play sports? If applicable, did you encourage your children to play on a team?

No to all the above I cannot seem to see balls until they hit me, I broke every finger playing netball. My position was wingdefense, I was the girl who did not get picked until last as no one wanted me on their team 😁😁😁 The boys however did everything and loved it. The eldest and youngest still Run and cycle, so does the middle lad but he also plays cricket, football and loves golf!

  1. Did you ever take dance, tap, ballet, baton, cheerleading, etc. lessons? When did you start? How long did you take lessons? Did you practice on your own in addition to the lessons? How skilled did you become? Did you encourage your children to do the same?

I learned Ballet and tap from when I was five for several years I loved it, I was not built for it though as I was a tubby child! I was in a big show with the school once though .
The boys never learned to dance but can …our youngest and his wife cut a dash at their wedding!

  1. Did you learn to roller skate or ice skate? Did someone teach you or did you take lessons? At what age did you learn? Did you become skilled quickly? Can you still skate? Did you teach your children.

No no no 😁😁😁😁😁 Our youngest broke his ankle skating, and they all roller skated!

Throwback Thursday #50 – Are Rules Made to be Broken?.

Maggie is back and this week she has given up the prompt for her’s and Lauren’s brainchu Throwback Thursday.

Who in your family was the person who made and enforced rules?

Both really, Mum enforced them but it was Dad who made them.

Did you grow up with many rules, or was your life a little more flexible?

We had lots of rules, times to get up, bedtimes, meal times, times we had to be in, how we spoke, when we spoke. But don’t get me wrong we were loved we were happy we had fun but we were disaplined.

Were you a rule follower or a rule breaker?

A little of both.

How were discipline and – in contrast – rewards managed in your household?

Mum would shout at us and I hated that! Dad would tell us off and give us a lecture….we all hated that. I got sent to my room or to bed early.

Rewards were always verbal praise.

Were you given the opportunity to plead your case in matters of disagreement?

Yes but it generally made no difference.

What tools did your parents use – ‘I’m going to count to three’ or ‘don’t make me get up’ or a time-out chair?

“I will tell your father when he gets home.” and she did. With Dad it was just a look?

Did fear of discipline curb your desire to break or bend the rules?

Yes and No.

Did your upbringing influence the way you (as an adult) managed rules in your own home?

Yes I was not a great disciplinarian I always wanted everyone to be happy. Hubby was better at disapline than me, he is very black and white.

Were you ever ‘grounded’? Do you want to share the story?

Yes I was but I can’t remember why.

Did you break rules your parents never knew about? Want to confess and leave with a clear conscience?

Yes I did but I am not sharing.

Throwback Thursday #47 Hanging Out.

Welcome back to Throwback Thursday

Lauren’s in the hot seat this week for Throwback Thursday and she says:This week’s prompt is: Hanging Out  Feel write about a place or places you liked to hang out in your youth.

Throwback Thursday is the brainchild of Maggie and Lauren.

So here we go HANGING OUT.

Did you spend more time hanging out at friend’s houses or away from the eyes and ears of parents?

Yes I did , I did not have a great many school friends but I did have a few really nice ones , we used to stay at eachother’s homes occasionally it always fun to be somewhere else. Most of them had big gardens and houses so we always had plenty of places to hide and play. One girl had a great big garden that had a hole in the fence which lead to a huge field we had a whale of a time in there just running wild!

If you stayed home, how did you spend your time?

Colouring , playing with Teddy , reading and as I got older listening to music 💜💜

Did you have a favorite eatery.

With friends? Two really the fish and chip shop at the top of our road and the Wimpy Bar in Ealing Broadway!

Did you go to the mall with friends?

We didn’t have Malls in the UK. But we had high streets and occasionally we go shopping in a group, only window shopping, we never had much to spend!

Did you choose to socialize at bowling alleys, arcades, or roller rinks?

No really definitely not until I was about sixteen and even then very rarely. I can remember bowling once or twice, I loved it. Arcades were were we went on holiday by the sea, usually penny machines. I never ice or roller skated but my sister’s did.

Did you go miniature golfing or do another outside activity?

Again miniature golf was when we were on holiday. I spent a lot of time at the park it was a huge place with a museum, cafe, play area, boating lake, fishing lake, and all sorts of pitches. It was in the same road I lived in.

Did you hang around after school killing time? What did you do?

I always went straight home unless I was on detention …. Hang around at school…never couldn’t get away and home quick enough.

Did your parents typically know where you were?

Yes mostly.

Did you prefer to “hang” with friends or family members?

Hard to say I loved both.

Was it “cool” to be seen hanging out at any particular place?

The Wimpy Bar, the Cinema, and I loved our local youth club that was the place to be! That’s where I met hubby 😉

Was there a place you wanted to hang out, but weren’t allowed to?

No not really 🤣

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