Dear Mum and Dad
I don’t think I ever made it clear enough how I appreciated exactly what you did for me. It is only now as a parent and grandparent that I see what you must of gone through.
Nine children you had, nine, you lost three but that was never your fault. How did you cope Mum it must of been hard, and Dad worse for you because in those days grieving was not the done thing. I lost three babies too, but early, in pregnancy. I could not openly grieve either but you knew you silently gave me strength.
How did you cope Mum and Dad how did you balance help and interference , how come you never ended not talking to each other or to any of us.
Now look see, you have both been gone so long and I miss you both so. I need you here to give me the strength , kindness and love. See even now I am asking for your help. I am so selfish, I was so angry when you died Mum because you were not there to talk to me and help me, do you know it took me 7yrs to accept that you had really gone.
Who helped you, did anyone or did you have to struggle through learning haphazardly! You no doubt had to and that is why you were both such helpful parents. I am amazed at the sacrifices you must of made to keep us in clothes, shoes and food.
Dad worked as a body maker for London Transport upholstering seats on the Tubes and buses! Off to work at 5am and home at 5pm for dinner 6pm the BBC News … silence reined!
Mum you loved Wimbledon, when we finally got a TV you watched the tennis for the entire fortnight….the only change from tennis was the news for dad…..and it was salade for tea for the entire fortnight.
I miss you both very much even though you have been so long, I still feel your presence and I will always be grateful for all that you did for me.
Well I shall close now and tell you that you gave me lots of love and good advice and support. I really hope that you were both as proud of me as you were the others.
I miss you and I love you !
willow xxxxxxxx
willowdot21 
Jan 11, 2021 @ 12:42:02
What a wonderful letter 🥰
Jan 11, 2021 @ 12:46:55
It’s very heartfelt, Sis, I miss them so much. They gave me so much. …. I wonder what on earth they would of mad of life today?
Jan 11, 2021 @ 13:53:53
🤗🤗🤗
Jan 11, 2021 @ 14:22:48
😍😍
Jan 11, 2021 @ 13:35:54
Wonderful letter. I am blessed by a daughter who has told me many times how lucky she is to be mine and how much she appreciates what her dad and I went through! My son? Not so much, but he’s a boy. I am sure you told them often and I can see your love.
Jan 11, 2021 @ 13:58:31
Thank you Noelle, I am glad your daughter tells you how she appreciates you. I have three boys they do tell us appreciate us but boys don’t say too much do they.
I do miss my parents.💜💜💜
Jan 11, 2021 @ 14:39:45
What more is there to be said? I sometimes wish we had been able to talk more with them.
I was truly blessed having Mum to help look after our first two boys so that I could help with finances by going back to work.
AS the family grew Mum and Dad were always supportive.
When we returned from Australia they opened up their home to us all and helped us get on our feet again.
Jan 11, 2021 @ 15:22:17
Yes, they were truly great parents. They were always there with practical help and wise words. ….I really miss them dreadfully.💜 Thank you for reading 💜
Jan 11, 2021 @ 15:31:58
We never said the things we should have, did we?
Jan 11, 2021 @ 15:42:05
Chances lost, I think they knew.But still I wish I had said them 💜
Jan 11, 2021 @ 16:14:00
That’s a lovely tribute, Willow. We never truly understand how our parents struggled until we have to do it ourselves. My own grown daughters are just now coming to me and saying things like, “How did you ever manage?” At least they’ve managed to acknowledge my efforts before I’ve died; normally that’s not the case. I never acknowledged my mother’s struggles, and years later I wish I had.
Jan 11, 2021 @ 16:55:35
Our mothers and fathers do so much for us and as you say we do not realise this sometimes it is too late. I wish I had a knowledged them more. I am glad your daughter’s have spoken to you of their gratitude. Stay safe.💜💜💜
Jan 11, 2021 @ 17:45:47
Oh, I love this! Many times I wish I had said what I long to say to my parents now.
Jan 11, 2021 @ 17:48:51
Yes indeed there is so much I wish I had said ,💜💜