Red shoes kicking again in support OF Abigail Johnston and BCAM .
Language matters.
Let me say that again, language matters.
Here’s how Adiba describes how MBC patients look at the “battle” terminology:
As a person who loves control and wants to have control, losing control over so many things as a forever patient has been a rough transition for me personally. One thing no one has control over (except, of course, God) is how our bodies respond biologically to the treatments. No two people are exactly alike and no treatment results in the exact same result.
We don’t have any control over how our bodies respond or the cancer cells, so we have no way to “fight,” and the end of that metaphor is we “lose” when we die. Once we are diagnosed, we have lost. We have lost the ability to make a difference by anything under our control. Don’t rub it in by using this language, don’t minimize our…
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Oct 14, 2020 @ 19:05:06
It’s supposed to make us all feel better about it, I think. Like dead soldiers fell heroically on the field of battle or gave their lives, sacrifice etc etc when they really just died, were killed, had their lives taken. If there’s a battle, as the article says, it makes it seem as though this was a wonderful heroic person and if they died, they are a hero. Language. What sick people need is help and soldiers want to come home.
Oct 14, 2020 @ 19:11:08
Yes Jane I do agree but at the moment I want to send a strong message of support to my friends fight the evil c. Forgive me for going with the flow 💜
Oct 14, 2020 @ 19:11:47
I understand 🙂
Oct 14, 2020 @ 19:13:19
Thank you, I really mean thank you 💜
Oct 14, 2020 @ 19:35:40
Whatever helps people cope 🙂
Oct 14, 2020 @ 19:48:10
Yes indeed 💜
Oct 15, 2020 @ 11:22:21
🙂
Oct 14, 2020 @ 19:41:22
Thank you for sharing this.
Oct 14, 2020 @ 19:48:36
Always a pleasure to help 💜
Oct 14, 2020 @ 19:49:38
I have lost loved ones to MBC. My MIL had her second mastectomy earlier this year.
Oct 14, 2020 @ 19:51:21
I too have lots friends and had loved ones suffer with it too, plus other cancers too 💜💜
Oct 14, 2020 @ 19:52:07
Same here. It is such an awful disease.
Oct 14, 2020 @ 20:00:47
Yes indeed it is 😊
Oct 14, 2020 @ 21:35:44
Such wonderful points. It has always bothered me when people somehow assume that if one does not survive, they are somehow to weak to fight effectively. That is a lot of B.S. The strongest people I have known fought valiantly.
Oct 14, 2020 @ 21:38:32
Yes indeed Maggie, the disease is often stronger than the strongest desire to live. No one gives up and dies, thats not what humans do 💜
Oct 16, 2020 @ 11:49:15
The fight can be daunting. Not something many people seem to understand. My sisters were tough and fought hard.
Oct 16, 2020 @ 12:29:46
Yes indeed it’s never easy 💜💜
Oct 15, 2020 @ 10:02:26
Thought provoking
Oct 15, 2020 @ 11:10:43
Yes indeed it is 💜