What day is it Anyway. Saturday 4th July, Sunday 5th and Monday 6th July 2020.

Why is Linda hosting this post.

She said.”Because if you’re like me and stuck at home already, or if you’re going to be like me soon, the days of the week are going to be hell to keep track of. We have a wonderful community here on WordPress, and I’m sure many people are feeling nervous and/or isolated. I want to make sure every one of us has somewhere to congregate and someone to talk to.

Why am I writing this post ? 

Because it’s day ? since we have been told by Bossa to stay home and socially distance ourselves. We are all in different circumstances and yet we are all in the same boat.

Well I don’t think I want to live forever but I would like to live a little longer….maybe a lot longer. Non of us are immortal and after MIL’s passing losing friends over the years it brings it home to you. One day the boys are going to be the ones to step up to the plate and deal with our funerals.

Now Hubby and I had sorted out a funeral plan for ourselves and we have paid up front, about four years ago. When my sister Mary died, she had arranged every aspect of her funeral and the wake and it made things much simpler and less painful.

It’s not morbid really, we decided we had done our wills ages ago why not make it easy for the boys and sort out our funerals too. So it’s been sorted for s couple of years now.

We could never get Hubby’s mother to sort her funeral or arrangements out infact she would get down right hostile about it! It was a great deal of work to sort it all out…. So we decided to sort ours out. Hubby did his on Friday. He designed his order of service, his music and poems and speeches. So I thought I am a captive patient at the moment so Saturday afternoon I set to and have organised my funeral too.

Like hubby,order of service, music, and where I would like my ashes scattered. ( In Pitshsnger Park Ealing London with Hubbys) I, like Hubby want a simple humanist service with a Celebrant. Up beat an hopefully happy.

We are hoping that this way it will be easier for which ever of us goes first and ultimately easier for the boys …. It is not what any of us want to think of but it will make life a lot easier for those we leave behind. That’s what it’s all about isn’t it.

I have thought long and hard about what music I want and come up with these. I want to go in to Canto Della Terra by Andrea Bocelli

No hymns instead The prayer by Donna Taggart

I have written a thank you note to everyone and asked God / Gaia to look after everyone left behind . Instead of a prayer I feel it’s more heartfelt. I don’t want them feeling they have to say a prayer by rote.

I am going out on a high note with Sia’s Your Never Fully Dressed Without a Smile.

I was tired after that so I was in bed by 9pm but I was in a lot of pain so I could not sleep but I got through the night. As it was the 4th July both Independence Day film were on , I couldn’t concentrate so we recorded them to watch later.

Sunday 5th July 2020.

Awake at stupid o’clock, my wound was really sore and I had a thumping headache. I had a paracetamol and that helped a little. I rested in bed until 1pm then got up , Hubby and I had a walk round the block to keep my legs working… I rang the changes and wore a different long scarf to hide my bag.

© willowdot21. “Today Mathew I am going to be Sandy Shaw.”

We had a quiet afternoon and at 5pm we went out and clapped for the NHS’s 72th Anniversary and to wave to our neighbours. I was a little disappointed as not many bothered to come out but that’s their choice , those of us who did showed our gratitude.💜

We had our weekly video virtual get together with our friends up the road, it was hilarious as usual. I was tucked up in bed again by 9pm. It took me ages to get to sleep but eventually I did and I slept better and woke up in less pain.

Mondy 6th July

Awake at not so stupid o’clock, and was feeling marginally better. Hubby walked Ruby and did the housework. I rang round and found a dog groomer who would cut Ruby’s claws for us. She has long quicks in them and we don’t like to risk hurting her. I did get her an appointment and hubby dropped her off there and waited while she was done. It only took 5mins and then he took her on for her afternoon walk.

It’s been a quiet day of mixed weather, we have heard from the boys and one of my sisters. I ached today so after dinner I have asked hubby if we can do a walk around the block to ease things up.

That’s about it for now. I hope you are all feeling good, sending hugs to you all.

Time for a happy song.

This is part of LindaGHill’s #WDIIA ?

Be Healthy
2 metres
Be brave, Be safe.

29 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Maggie
    Jul 06, 2020 @ 17:36:01

    We have had similar thoughts, Willow. The song I would love to have played is “The Briar and the Rose”. Do you know it?


  2. Ritu
    Jul 06, 2020 @ 18:07:20

    Sis, it’s not morbid, but concern for those left behind xxx


  3. Dr. Crystal Grimes
    Jul 06, 2020 @ 18:12:31

    What great music you have chosen, and a lovely idea to write everyone a thank you note. Hope you continue to improve! 🙂


  4. Ruth
    Jul 06, 2020 @ 19:38:43

    I really love your long scarf, Willow 🙂


  5. DailyMusings
    Jul 06, 2020 @ 21:40:57

    love your scarf and I had forgotten how much I love the Coors and that song!!!Thank you!


  6. Lisa Coleman
    Jul 07, 2020 @ 00:27:21

    My mom had her funeral planned and paid for when she passed. We only had to choose the songs which were mostly Elvis Presley anyway. We were with her in hospice for 5 days before she passed so we were able to get photos together for her slideshow. You look fabulous. Love those colors on you. 💜 feel better!


  7. TanGental
    Jul 07, 2020 @ 08:07:19

    Interesting about funeral plans. Neither of my parents did. I don’t think either saw it as their role, it being those who were going to be there to decide on how the funeral is set up. But it is a right old faff and you have to do it as i know, in the midst of both your own muddled thinking and all the other guff that swamps you when someone close dies. So i can sort of see both approaches. And i also know were i to ask the Vet if planning it would help, she’d stick her fingers in her ears and run i circles which singing ‘,there’ll be a welcome in the hillside’…


    • willowdot21
      Jul 07, 2020 @ 06:19:24

      Yes on both counts, we have had to organise more than our share of funerals… And as you say it’s not easy at difficult time. Yes and the boys don’t want to know like the vet! So it’s done and hopefully it will be a tad easier. We did it then mentioned where all the plans are and that they are all sorted.😀💜


  8. robertawrites235681907
    Jul 08, 2020 @ 03:57:10

    I am with you on sorting out your own funeral in advance, Willow. I have sorted out my music and service too but not actual funeral processes. I don’t want to die and be buried in South Africa.


  9. John Holton
    Jul 08, 2020 @ 23:47:02

    My mother-in-law had her funeral all set when she died, so all we had to do was tell the funeral director and everything was ready. That’s very common these days, and it’s a good idea.


    • willowdot21
      Jul 09, 2020 @ 05:51:14

      And so much easier than having to do it all from scratch like hubby had to for his mum , and with me in hospital it was very stressful for him 💜💜💜


      • John Holton
        Jul 09, 2020 @ 15:22:56

        I can only imagine. My brothers and I arranged Mom’s funeral, and I remember how involved it was. At least she told her sisters what she wanted to wear and who her hairdresser was. We called her to ask what color she used on Mom’s hair, and she was beside herself: she had no idea Mom was sick, let alone died. She insisted on doing Mom’s hair as kind of a gift to her, and did a beautiful job.

      • willowdot21
        Jul 09, 2020 @ 14:14:55

        That’s so lovely of the hairdresser to do that 💜💜💜

  10. Betty Hayes Albright
    Jul 20, 2020 @ 21:07:13

    I agree, planning ahead is not morbid at all. It’s a kindness to our families.
    Sorry I got so far behind again Willow. Will try to be back to read your Sofia story. It looks really good. (I’ve had to limit myself to reading mostly poetry posts and not much prose, as my eyes get so tired.)


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