Dementia it drives you crazy.💜
well here we are in April and the weather is actually warming up. The sun shines into our conservatory most afternoons and the house is warm.
This means the radiators switch off as they are on an auto progamme .
this causes my Husband to get extremely anxious .He thinks they should be hot all the time and keeps opening and closing the door to the cupboard where the Boiler is as he thinks this will activate the boiler and bring them on.
He also keeps asking me to show him how to change the thermostat. Something I have done a multitude of times but of course he does not remember this. The action is forgotten almost as quickly as it is demonstrated.
After this constant badgering one tends to begin to feel as if one is going crazy and even considers banging their own head on the wall.
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Apr 05, 2019 @ 19:09:28
I saw Tess’s post and responded. ❤
Apr 05, 2019 @ 19:22:57
Thank you I saw you did … I don’t know what to say. I can’t visit for a while all I can do is phone, I hope it is enough.💜
Apr 05, 2019 @ 19:29:49
Dementia affects everyone in the family. I was almost 300 miles away so couldn’t do very much at all other than write as Mum got quite agitated not being able to put a face to the voice on the phone. Sis and I are not close, even more so now.
Apr 05, 2019 @ 19:44:28
It is so difficult isn’t it , I feel so lost.💜
Apr 05, 2019 @ 20:20:08
We did what we could, but my sister had no idea of the distance or journey time, accusing me of making excuses and shirking my responsibility. I tried not to let on to Mum the animosity between us, but visiting was awkward and we were glad when we could take Mum out. Have Tess and John got children? My nieces popped in to see Nan several times a week, but my sister was able to leave Mum on her own in the afternoons so got a break that way.
Apr 05, 2019 @ 20:33:17
Yes Tess does have children and grandchildren near but they are often away or busy. It’s a long way for us to go and there is no where for us to stay. One of her son’s has already guilt tripped me. ..less said the best .
Apr 06, 2019 @ 06:18:07
Been there myself. My sister had the means to put us up but never once offered until she asked us to stay for a weekend so that she and the boyfriend of the time could go away. It wasn’t a problem as we had notice. With a dog, finding outside accommodation is expensive, money we can;t afford, so it was a day trip……… some 500 miles and Hubby just cannot do long distances. Then she buggered off for a week leaving Mum on her own and people ‘popping in’, telling everyone we’d refused to help when she hadn’t even asked!
We did what we could when we could. It is a difficult situation for everyone.
Apr 06, 2019 @ 06:21:21
Yes indeed it is and like you must of I find it so frustrating . I am so grateful to you for listening to me and sharing your experiences. 💜
Apr 06, 2019 @ 06:30:13
Glad to do it Willow.
Apr 06, 2019 @ 06:54:24
Thank you 💜
Apr 06, 2019 @ 18:44:02
It’s so hard…..
Apr 06, 2019 @ 18:45:12
It is awful 💜
Apr 06, 2019 @ 18:47:48
My heart goes out to your sister…. ❤️
Apr 06, 2019 @ 21:17:30
Thank you , so does mine 🌹🌹