Over heard, two octogenarians discussing their deceased husband’s:
“I suppose it is for the best in a way , if they were still here we would have to look after them”
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Author: willowdot21
Female, wife, full time mother and Grandmother. I am not as happy go lucky as I used to be but I am still bubbling along on simmer! I have three handsome sons all grown and flown.The youngest married with a beautiful wife and two sons of his own. Eleven years ago I was working, running a home, driving and socializing then bang in a split second all that was gone. I had an accident at home. I broke my back, not for the first time, I had broken it 10 years previously as well. Unfortunately this time I had broken it really badly and it was truly messed up so I had to have two operations. I was told before each operation that the outcome could mean I spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair. Still as some guy once wrote "I am still standing " yes "better than I ever was " not quite but with the help of a walking stick and as long as I do not stand or sit in one position for too long, I am still standing! Update I no longer use the walking stick . I had lots of friends before the accident but when things like this happen, you loose most of them. Their lives move on and mine stood still and so they left me behind ...I know that is just the way life is but it hurt and always will. Then I looked around and saw those who were still there for me, these friends are the roses in my garden they need to be tended well. They are the diamonds in the dust, I will of been married 50yrs plus this year . Pain and boredom are my enemies now, I have to find different ways to approach life, use my pain befriend it almost...yer right , well that is what they tell me at the pain clinic ROFLMAO ...... if only I could! I have found an outlet for my fears, frustrations and night terrors . I have started writing poetry if that name can be applied to my writing. I hope I do not come over as a moaning winger. I hope I am past all that. I also hope that you might see how the poetry is moving from very dark through the grey and hopefully in to light ?? I need to update this a little here. I have worked very hard over the years since my accident, I go to the gym regularly, I have a Pilates class and a core class once a week . The guys at the gym and my Pilates teacher cajoled, teased, bullied and encouraged me to abandon my walking stick! :) My back is no longer straight it is C shaped because of the injury and I have lost two and a half inches in height but my Pilates and Core teachers have helped me to stand up as straight and as strongly as possible. Pain and depression are still hanging on my arm but I have weapons to use against them and if I say so myself I cope well. I have made lots of new friends, real diamonds. I am also very grateful for all the support and help I have encountered here on Wordpress. Hugs and welcome to everyone who visits. View all posts by willowdot21
Wait, wait, do I detect a hint of cynicism there? π
No , well yes, but err? But I overheard it ! .π
Ha! No doubt that’s your story and you’re sticking to it. π
Believe me I was shocked!
wow –
Yes wow! ,π
YIKES
Yikes indeed!!
And many years ago, my mother, just before Christmas and running through the things that needed to be done and the things she had done, said of an old friend’s mother she used to visit, “And Mrs X, being dead, doesn’t need to be visited.” She couldn’t understand why I laughed so much it literally hurt.
Out of the mouths of babes and dumplings? Out of the mouths of mothers and old ladies?
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They’re saying it as it is.; )
True but scary,π
Ummm. Wow. That’s a dark pleasure.
es very dark!
I asked my great-aunt why she never married, and she responded that she had watched her own mother care for her father, waiting on him hand and foot. He never lifted a finger. And she hadn’t wanted that in her life. I was shocked, but I can understand it. We all make our choices. I’m thankful men do more than they did in that bygone era.
Yes men today are much more in tune with family life … some too much so, one of my sons works full time , shops, cooks, cleans and irons and does a lot with his his son. That’s lovely in a way. I am lucky my husband did his best but was away working most of the time the children were growing up. Now he is retired he loves to do the cooking and cleaning and shopping. In fact he like to tell me “Where I go wrong!! ” you have to smile! π
Men. LOL Your son sounds wonderful and your man, too.