If we were having Coffee : Gardens, News, families

welcome one welcome all!

Hello  everyone  welcome  to  the garden  we have a marquee  and  heaters, all the garden  furniture  has  been washed  and  I have put out cushions for your  comfort.

Well what  do  you  think  shall  we  chance  it . Now  as  always  we have  tea  and coffee  from all over  the world not to mention all our cakes  and muffins  and  as Paul  calls  them sweets! Every single  one  is  calorie  free! Plus of course  we now have spirits  and liquors  to warm the coldest of  you.

If we were having  Coffee: I would ask  you what  has been going on in your world this week, has  anything  deeply affected  you, have  you need a sympathetic ear, a shoulder to cry  on or  just  needed someone  to make  you laugh! If  yes  feel free to talk it out  here  with us. We will all help if  we can.

Lets  join  everyone  here  and  all the  other  “IF  WE  WERE  HAVING  COFFEES”

If we were having Coffee: I would  remind  you  that  there  are lots of  other  coffee mornings  all shared  and organized  By  Diana  and  Gene’O  over at,Part time monster  

If we were having  coffee: I would  tell  you  just  how  much I  would like  to  pretend  that I have  all  the  time in  world  this  week  but  sadly  my  time is  very  clipped  today. We have  the  mother in  law  over  most  Sundays…. for  some  reason  neither  of  the husbands two  siblings seem  to  see fit  to  have  her  over, so  most  Sundays, outings  and Holidays  (  as our  American  friends  say, to  me  Christmas,Easter  and bank holidays  fall to us. ) Now  we  don’t  mind  but it  does  get  a  little  stressful  when  there are  other things  on  the cards  that  need  to be organized!….. Enough  I  am not  moaning   just  stating  facts!

If we were having  coffee:  I  would  tell  you  it has been a  strange  week  as I  have been under  the  weather and  spent  two  days in  bed  with stomach  ache. So it has  not been a normal  week  as I was unable  to get out and  do  most of  the usual  things  that  make  my  week  normal. I like  normal  it  makes  me  feel  safe  anything  else tends  to  upset  my  equilibrium!

Now  I  have  found  a very interesting   new  blog, on  first sight  it  appears  to be  a  cookery  blog  but  as  the posts  started  coming  to my  email I discovered  that  it is  also about  a  very  brave  and  courageous mother of  nine children’s account  of her  life  as a  foreigner living  and  married  to a  man in Saudi, she  has amazed  and inspired  me, also  I love  her  recipes. Do  pop  over  and  check out  at  Lynz real cooking. here  is  one of  her  triumphs  …go on  let’s  all have  a piece!

Mocha Cookie mousse

  If we  were having  coffee : I would  ask  what  are  the  big  things  that  affected  you  in the  news  this  week. As I said  I have been  out of  it  most of  the week  but  what  has seeped  through  to me is  that  the Number  of  Muslim  women  who  are taking off  for  Syria  to join isis  from this  country,the  UK , is  growing . Well okay  if  these women  feel  they  need  to  dessert  the life  they have  grown up  with over here and  want  to give up  every last  vestige  of  freedom then fine  they make  their own beds  let  them lie in them. But   they are  taking  children  with  them, some very young  children  too. Apparently  these  women are  doing  this  mad  exodus  without  their husbands  or  families knowing ?

It  started  with  young  men  being  radicalized by youtube  and  social media, then it  was young  girls  and  now  women  with  children  are  up  and  fleeing  into  what I can  only  see  as the unknown. Well if  young  men , girls  and  women  want  to leave  here  and  head out  to  join isis  so be it. Now  to my mind  their  actions  do not  come  without  consequences  if  they  go  they  can never return.   Let us  face it  how  could  they  ever  be trusted  not to turn against us? That  said  it is not  fair of  them to take  their children  with them, what  mother  can willing  take  their  children into a war  zone,  a place  where  women  are  treated  a cheap chattels  and  worth less  than  cattle. It pains  me  to say  this   but it  is  wrong . Read  here

Right  If  we were having coffee : Can I  get  you  a top up or  perhaps  you would like  something  stronger.

Liqueurs and coffee

Now  the moment  you all adore….. Garden  time!!

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Tomato crop coming on
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and big
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Autumn colours
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Tidied up
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White rose rising
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Last splash of Summer

If  we were having coffee : I would  ask  if  I  can fill up  your  cup, or  glass  or  get  you anything  else  to  eat  it is  all  calorie  free!

Let us  go  and Join Paul and the  gang  they  are  all over  at  Mark Bialczak  this  week and  see  what  they are  all discussing  ! It has  been lovely  as always  to have  you all here  and  I  hope,  as does  Paul  that  you will all join us here again  next  week.

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And of course  the


over at Part Time  Monster  and Gene’O’s

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Author: willowdot21

Female, wife, full time mother and Grandmother. I am not as happy go lucky as I used to be but I am still bubbling along on simmer! I have three handsome sons all grown and flown.The youngest married with a beautiful wife and two sons of his own. Eleven years ago I was working, running a home, driving and socializing then bang in a split second all that was gone. I had an accident at home. I broke my back, not for the first time, I had broken it 10 years previously as well. Unfortunately this time I had broken it really badly and it was truly messed up so I had to have two operations. I was told before each operation that the outcome could mean I spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair. Still as some guy once wrote "I am still standing " yes "better than I ever was " not quite but with the help of a walking stick and as long as I do not stand or sit in one position for too long, I am still standing! Update I no longer use the walking stick . I had lots of friends before the accident but when things like this happen, you loose most of them. Their lives move on and mine stood still and so they left me behind ...I know that is just the way life is but it hurt and always will. Then I looked around and saw those who were still there for me, these friends are the roses in my garden they need to be tended well. They are the diamonds in the dust, I will of been married 50yrs plus this year . Pain and boredom are my enemies now, I have to find different ways to approach life, use my pain befriend it almost...yer right , well that is what they tell me at the pain clinic ROFLMAO ...... if only I could! I have found an outlet for my fears, frustrations and night terrors . I have started writing poetry if that name can be applied to my writing. I hope I do not come over as a moaning winger. I hope I am past all that. I also hope that you might see how the poetry is moving from very dark through the grey and hopefully in to light ?? I need to update this a little here. I have worked very hard over the years since my accident, I go to the gym regularly, I have a Pilates class and a core class once a week . The guys at the gym and my Pilates teacher cajoled, teased, bullied and encouraged me to abandon my walking stick! :) My back is no longer straight it is C shaped because of the injury and I have lost two and a half inches in height but my Pilates and Core teachers have helped me to stand up as straight and as strongly as possible. Pain and depression are still hanging on my arm but I have weapons to use against them and if I say so myself I cope well. I have made lots of new friends, real diamonds. I am also very grateful for all the support and help I have encountered here on Wordpress. Hugs and welcome to everyone who visits.

29 thoughts on “If we were having Coffee : Gardens, News, families”

      1. Love it!!! we had coffee mornings on the compound where all the ladies came and brought sweets! I had never heard anyone else use that term! so lovely

  1. Hi Willow! Great pics of the garden – when you really have a green thumb. Sorry to hear you were under the weather earlier this week and glad you are better now. You do know that we (the first world) created ISIS? There are two major Muslim branches – Sunni and Shia. Saddam Hussein was Sunni and he treated the Shia terribly. When the Americans et al toppled his government, they installed a predominately Shia replacement who immediately started killing all the Sunni they could find and drove them from their homes – this from the NEW “democratic” government WE put in there. The Sunni found themselves homeless and organized into groups to strike back at the government supported genocide. Eventually these groups merged into ISIS. Many of the members were previously soldiers and officers in Hussein’s Sunni government and so knew how to organize and fight. They have thumbed their noses at the western world who caused this and have declared us their enemies as well as the Shia who are persecuting them with our blessing. They have also since declared a “Caliphate” – a Muslim religious government headed by a “Caliph” who is believed to be a successor of Mohammed. They hold their lands tenuously and do not have a physical seat of government yet – but they are growing.

    ISIS has put out a call to all Sunni to join them and the religious Muslims have obeyed – that is the exodus you see from the UK and from here as well. It is hard for them not to Willow – as they feel required by their Faith to support their religious Caliphate. Don’t get me wrong ISIS is a horror show – they are dangerous, treat people – even non-combatants – inhumanely and will eventually lose what they have gained if they continue to abuse others as well as women. It is wrong what they are doing and they are a bloody minded lot who should all be imprisoned and yet I can perfectly understand why they are doing what they are doing – it is precisely how they have been treated by their own “government”. After all it is their version of an eye for an eye.

  2. Thank you for the link to Lynz blog. I will be sure to check it out. I am sorry you’ve been unwell this week. I hope you are feeling so much better and I am sorry you are still having to host your mother in law this week. I hope all is better this coming week and you are in top form next time around!

    1. I am sure I will be thank you Corina. Do try Lynx blog it is a really interesting place to visit. I hope you have a great week, thank you for visiting. Xxxx

  3. A lovely sit down.
    It’s disturbing young women – and young men in the UK and US are only seeing a romanticized idealistic view – only to run towards what was supposed to be a dream only to find a nightmare – and they are unable to wake up or escape. Some have led a life far too easy and do not know what the rest of the world is like.
    But your pictures are lovely – and it has been such a lovely chat

    1. Terrifying thought isn’t it, I cannot understand what their motivation is! I feel sorry for them but if they make their beds they must lie in them . But it is wicked to drag their children into that particular hell.
      I am so glad you came and enjoyed coffee , cakes and chatter please come as often as you like. Xxx

  4. One psychologist said these girls/women are as much running towards an ideology as away from something. They are being lured by slick finely crafted video/FB pages designed to appeal to the idealistic, the naive, the trusting ones who don’t think others will manipulate or harm them. Materialism, some subjects of modern films/music are disturbing to them, the violence, the ugliness of an increasingly coarse and common society where laws no longer protect – and they are looking for a better world – not realizing they are blind to what the realities of the situations that wait for them there – the vast differences in traditions and culture – that poverty at this level is not noble at all. Not realizing the lies. Lambs led to slaughter and submission. Lost.
    ISIS may be a modern group, but this conflict has existed for centuries.
    Those who do not know history’s solid facts are vulnerable. Education is critical. Pride of what has been accomplished by their own culture – the good that has been done in their own world is critical knowledge, too. While there may have been missteps by society, the important thing to know is that some civilizations acknowledge, then move to improve life for all – not destroy, and entrap people as some continue to do with “Believe my way or die.”
    Difficult to have peace if one side isn’t willing and only wishes to destroy the other because of different beliefs. No live and let live for them.
    No easy answers.

    1. Yes you are so right and I know and acknowledge all this . It saddens me deeply that so much evil is done in the name of religious beliefs. No love or care for anyone but their selves sadly their way or no way. Repeated forever since religion of all types evolved. xxxx

  5. There I was, happily typing away and I’m sure it was brilliant and all – – – then the silly cat with the file tickled me and my finger hit some key and away flew your blog and everything else, including probably the only witty thing I’ve had in my head in the last 36 hours.
    I always love your Sunday Coffee and this week you really outdid yourself. Yes, I know, I always show up late and never on a Sunday but your blog is always in the back of my mind that I want to get over here and see what you are up to.
    I so understand about the remainder of the family not understanding real family obligations. I no longer have those obligations and I can honestly say I miss them as my family has all passed on. I’m glad I had the opportunity to build the bond even deeper while I had the chance.
    I love what’s happening in the garden. I hope our temperatures start to cool down as I want to start preparing my wildflower beds for planting. I never did get to everything I wanted to accomplish this past year.
    I couldn’t agree with you more about the women going to Syria. I continue to ask myself why, why and why. How could your life be so out of synch that you thought you had no other alternative or that life would really be better there. I also believe it’s immoral and one of the worst things a mother could do to her child/children. They don’t have a chance at survival.
    Take good care of yourself this week. Tell that tummy of yours to behave. I know, easier said than done.

    1. Well Sheri you know that by now I know that you will arrive eventually and it never matters if you are late I always keep coffee/tea and cakes back for you and any late comers! Tell that pesky though I guess well loved cat to behave !! Yes I am just dumbfounded by they people rushing off to Syria while it is blaringly obvious that things are terrible out there by the streams and streams of refugees flooding away from there!! As to why take their children….. well I had better keep my mouth firmly closed!
      The garden is thriving and we are enjoying our produce! I shall save you some for tomato sandwiches next Sunday . Hugs to you Tom and the animals xxxxxx ❤

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