Hello everyone welcome to the garden we have a marquee and heaters, all the garden furniture has been washed and I have put out cushions for your comfort.
Well what do you think shall we chance it . Now as always we have tea and coffee from all over the world not to mention all our cakes and muffins and as Paul calls them sweets! Every single one is calorie free! Plus of course we now have spirits and liquors to warm the coldest of you.
If we were having Coffee: I would ask you what has been going on in your world this week, has anything deeply affected you, have you need a sympathetic ear, a shoulder to cry on or just needed someone to make you laugh! If yes feel free to talk it out here with us. We will all help if we can.
Lets join everyone here and all the other “IF WE WERE HAVING COFFEES”

Join in !
If we were having Coffee: I would remind you that there are lots of other coffee mornings all shared and organized By Diana and Gene’O over at,Part time monster

self harm
If we were having coffee : I would have to admit that I have been preoccupied with the plight of my friend’s daughter who has been in and out of a psychiatric unit like a yoyo in the past fortnight. It has been a roller coaster for my friend, her other daughter and for the husband and myself. Trips to and from the unit, not being allowed to see the patient or even call without express permission from the patient . Even my friend could not get any information about her daughter unless she had allowed it first.
My friend has two daughters both beautiful bright young women and I have known them since they were little girls of about 6yrs and 8yrs repectively. So it has been a an awful and deep shock to see the younger daughter now 21yrs fall apart, in what looks like a fortnight. It was even worse for her mum who also had no idea there were any problems.
The sad facts are that she has been suffering for a long time, she has been self harming and covering her misery for ages. None of us knew none of us had any idea.
If we were having coffee : I would tell you that I have had my second eldest sister on my mind too. She has been in hospital since 24th April , she went in to have a heart operation, a double bypass and double valve replacement . Well since then she has developed an infection in the wound in her leg from where they took the veins use in the operation and somehow she has a bone infection in her chest, there has been a long catalogue of setbacks that have befallen her but the fact remains she is still very unwell and any prayers you may have to say for her would be appreciated.
If we were having coffee : I would ask if you would like more tea, coffee and cake? We have plenty and all is calorie free!

Lots of eyes
If we were having coffee : I feel I should lighten the tone of this post so lets see? Monday the husband and I went into town to do some shopping ( clothes shopping ) well we parked a 15min walk from the shops. Not a problem it was a warm day ….. well we only had 2hr parking so half an hour would be walking to and from the shops, leaving an hour and a half to pick, try on and pay for the goods. We accomplished that …. rather rushed but done. On the way back to the car the heavens opened up and boy did it rain. We got soaked to the skin!
Tuesday back at the gym then housework , ironing and trip to hospital with my friend , mentioned above. She and her daughter stayed for dinner.
Wednesday Core Lesson at the gym, then take friend’s daughter back to hospital, in the afternoon I met my gym buddy for a coffee and a chat, we arranged to go into town the next day ….. so I could change most of the clothes I had so hastily bought on the Monday!
Thursday after the gym my buddy and I caught the bus into town and took our time I changed my hastily picked goods for more suitable and better fitting ones, she also bought some tops and three pairs of shoes. Then it started to rain and we got soaked …. for me again! We went and had a cuppa and a cake in a department store, by then we had dried out and so had the weather so we carried on to the Apple store where my friend had some queries to sort out! After which we caught the bus home.
Soaked twice in one week, not very fair! So Friday I had the new drive again to the Pilates class, which I found with no problem at all I did not get even slightly lost in either direction and really enjoyed the class. Busy afternoon and evening.
Today was special because the Newbie and his Daddy came for lunch and we had a lovely time with lots of giggling and fun!!
If we were having coffee : I wowuld say it is time for garden round up!
- Toms
- More toms
- Green beans
- Yet more toms
and now for from veg to flowers!
Okay well that is about all there is time for this week so
If we were having coffee : I would ask if I can fill up your cup, or glass or get you anything else to eat it is all calorie free!
Let us go and Join Paul and the gang and see what they are all discussing this week! It has been lovely as always to have you all here and I hope, as does Paul that you will all join us here again next week.
If we were having Coffee Original idea from http://parttimemonster.wordpress.com/
And of course the
IF WE WERE HAVING COFFEE: WEEKEND COFFEE SHARE
over at Part Time Monster and Gene’O’s
Aug 15, 2015 @ 19:42:54
How hard for your friend (and for you). Tell your friend that some kids manage to cover up any problems. My oldest always seemed like the most sensible, stable of my girls – I never knew she had been diagnosed as bipolar until she announced it on her blog! She was in her mid-20s by then. It still makes me feel guilty sometimes that I never saw any signs and therefore, was never in a position to help her through it.
Aug 16, 2015 @ 13:34:34
It is so hard isn’t it, I am sure as soon as you knew the situation you could help your daughter. My friend has yet to open up communications properly with her. All I can do is be there if either of them need me . Thank you for telling me this.
Aug 15, 2015 @ 20:34:11
Great post Willow. Wonderful that you got to see Newbie today. Sounds like you had a busy week – I could send you an umbrella, we have lots of them here in Canada **Giggle** The pictures of the garden are awesome – wow you have a green thumb. I could never get plants to look so happy!
Aug 16, 2015 @ 13:30:30
Busy week, busy weekend lovely to see the Newbie!! xxxxxx
Aug 15, 2015 @ 21:16:13
I feel so badly for your friend and her daughter, Willow. It’s awful to spiral so far downward that one does that to feel better somehow. My thoughts are with you all for her recovery.
Also, may your sister find some peace in her bounce back from the operation as well. That’s awful medical news.
Wet walking, no fun!
Good day with the Newbie is a happy ending, always, my friend. Have a great week, Willow. ❤
Aug 16, 2015 @ 13:29:34
Thank you Mark it has been a strain for the family with our sister so far away and so ill, we have all been to see her but it is so worrying. Then my poor friend has been under so much stress too. But it is not all doom and gloom the Newbie and his Dad were over her visiting. Don’t mention rain!! Have a great week Mark and I have really enjoyed your posts on the family reunion!!
Aug 16, 2015 @ 13:49:12
Thanks, Willow. I’m thinking of you and your whole family, always. ❤
Aug 16, 2015 @ 13:53:29
Thank you Mark and I am hoping you and yours are all fit and happy too!! ❤ xxxx
Aug 16, 2015 @ 06:31:40
Goodness, so many things in there! That picture of your friend’s daughter is a sad one, but I must admit the cartoon took my eye….and as for that cat just above….well, I love cats too.
Aug 16, 2015 @ 13:18:03
I know you love cats, the photo of the cut arm is not actually my friend’s daughter’s but her arm does look exactly like that. I love that cartoon, anything by http://explodingdog.com/ is ood by me!! Have a great week
Aug 16, 2015 @ 11:42:51
Unfortunately, many people suffer in silence for too long, often because they think nobody cares or nobody would understand, and it’s just when they snap that others notice something’s wrong.
Aug 16, 2015 @ 13:09:31
Well I realize that now, but honestly I had no idea but neither did her Mum. It makes me feel bad. xx
Aug 16, 2015 @ 15:18:35
Willow, sending lots of love and best wishes for your sister and your friend’s daughter. I hope they both turn the corner soon and find sunshine.
Aug 16, 2015 @ 15:49:20
Oh! Jean so do I , thank you for your kind thoughts.<3 xxx
Aug 16, 2015 @ 15:51:52
You’re more than welcome. xx
Aug 16, 2015 @ 17:57:04
❤
Aug 16, 2015 @ 19:03:39
I love explodingdog!! My husband recently bought me one of the prints from the site. And that one is awesome. 🙂
Lovely photos of the garden, too.
Sorry to hear about both your sister and your friend’s daughter, and sending healing thoughts everyone’s way.
Aug 16, 2015 @ 19:50:32
Which exploding dog print have you got! That is awesome, my avatar is an exploding dog picture. Thank you so much for your healing thoughts both of them really are in need right now xxx
Aug 17, 2015 @ 01:27:05
My husband bought me a large print of “I am Building a World For You” for Christmas. 🙂
Aug 17, 2015 @ 10:03:06
AHA!! I have just look it up and it is splendid what an amazing Christmas pressie!
Aug 17, 2015 @ 13:03:57
🙂 He’s so good about those things. I mentioned once that I’d always wanted a print of that one, and it showed up under the Christmas tree.
Aug 17, 2015 @ 14:34:39
Bless!!
Aug 17, 2015 @ 02:03:23
I’m so sorry to hear not only about your friend’s daughter but about yours! How awful that she got sick in the hospital where she went to get better! Ironic. I hope they are able to help her heal as soon as possible and that she can leave the hospital all better. I also hope your friend’s daughter gets the help she needs. Your friend is so luck to have you for support and encouragement!
Aug 17, 2015 @ 10:06:05
Hi Corina welcome do sit down and have a cuppa. These last few months have been very hard, it is not my daughter though, it is my sister who is so ill in hospital and we are all praying for her. As you say with my friend and her daughter all I can do is be there if they need me! I hope you are having a good week and that you and yours are well. xxxxx
Aug 17, 2015 @ 10:28:10
Hi Willow, sorry to hear about u’r family medical issues, hope everyone gets the help they need. Stay high and dry!
Aug 17, 2015 @ 10:38:57
Hello 1EU thanks for dropping by do sit down and make yourself comfortable, thank for caring we are paddling along and I am still smiling!
Aug 17, 2015 @ 21:43:13
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