If We Were Having Coffee : Shopping, Hospitals, Rain, and the Newbie


Hello  everyone  welcome  to  the garden  we have a marquee  and  heaters, all the garden  furniture  has  been washed  and  I have put out cushions for your  comfort.

Well what  do  you  think  shall  we  chance  it . Now  as  always  we have  tea  and coffee  from all over  the world not to mention all our cakes  and muffins  and  as Paul  calls  them sweets! Every single  one  is  calorie  free! Plus of course  we now have spirits  and liquors  to warm the coldest of  you.

If we were having  Coffee: I would ask  you what  has been going on in your world this week, has  anything  deeply affected  you, have  you need a sympathetic ear, a shoulder to cry  on or  just  needed someone  to make  you laugh! If  yes  feel free to talk it out  here  with us. We will all help if  we can.

Lets  join  everyone  here  and  all the  other  “IF  WE  WERE  HAVING  COFFEES”

Join in !

If we were having Coffee: I would  remind  you  that  there  are lots of  other  coffee mornings  all shared  and organized  By  Diana  and  Gene’O  over at,Part time monster  

self harm

If  we  were having  coffee : I would  have to admit  that I have  been  preoccupied with  the plight  of  my  friend’s  daughter who has  been in  and out  of  a psychiatric unit  like a  yoyo  in  the past  fortnight. It  has been a roller coaster  for  my  friend, her  other  daughter  and  for the husband  and myself. Trips  to  and from the unit, not being  allowed  to  see  the patient  or  even  call without  express  permission  from the patient . Even my  friend  could not  get  any information  about her  daughter  unless  she had  allowed it first.

My  friend has two  daughters  both beautiful  bright young  women  and I have known them  since  they were little  girls of  about  6yrs  and 8yrs repectively. So it  has been a an awful  and deep  shock  to   see  the  younger  daughter  now  21yrs  fall apart, in what  looks  like  a fortnight. It  was  even  worse  for her  mum  who  also had  no idea  there  were any  problems.

The  sad  facts  are  that  she has  been suffering  for a long  time, she has been  self harming   and  covering her  misery  for  ages. None of us  knew  none of us  had  any idea.

If  we  were having  coffee :  I would  tell you  that  I have  had  my second  eldest  sister  on my  mind  too. She  has been in  hospital  since  24th April , she  went in to have a heart operation,  a  double  bypass  and  double  valve replacement . Well since  then  she  has developed an infection  in  the  wound in her  leg   from  where  they  took  the    veins  use in the operation  and  somehow  she has  a bone infection in her  chest, there  has been a long  catalogue  of  setbacks  that have befallen her   but  the  fact remains  she is  still  very unwell  and  any  prayers  you  may  have  to  say  for her  would be  appreciated.

If  we  were having  coffee :  I would ask if  you would like  more tea, coffee  and  cake? We have  plenty  and  all is  calorie  free!


Lots of eyes


If  we  were having  coffee : I feel I  should  lighten  the tone of  this  post  so  lets  see? Monday  the  husband  and I  went into  town  to  do  some  shopping ( clothes  shopping ) well we  parked  a 15min  walk  from the  shops. Not  a problem it  was a warm  day ….. well  we only  had  2hr  parking so half  an  hour  would  be  walking  to  and  from  the  shops,  leaving  an  hour  and  a half  to  pick, try on  and  pay  for  the  goods. We  accomplished  that …. rather  rushed  but  done. On  the  way  back  to the  car  the  heavens  opened up  and  boy  did it  rain. We  got  soaked  to the skin!

Tuesday back at  the gym then housework , ironing and  trip  to hospital  with my  friend , mentioned  above. She  and her  daughter  stayed  for  dinner.

Wednesday  Core  Lesson  at  the  gym, then  take  friend’s  daughter  back  to hospital, in the  afternoon I  met  my  gym  buddy  for  a coffee and a chat, we arranged  to  go into  town  the  next  day  ….. so I  could  change  most of  the  clothes  I had  so  hastily  bought  on the Monday!

Thursday  after  the  gym  my  buddy  and I  caught  the  bus into  town  and  took our  time  I  changed  my  hastily  picked  goods  for  more  suitable and  better fitting  ones, she  also  bought  some  tops  and  three pairs  of  shoes. Then  it  started  to rain  and  we  got  soaked  …. for me  again! We went  and had a cuppa  and  a cake  in a department  store, by then we had  dried out  and  so had  the weather  so we  carried on to  the Apple  store  where  my  friend  had  some  queries  to  sort out! After which  we caught  the bus  home.

Soaked  twice in one  week,  not  very  fair! So  Friday I  had  the  new  drive  again  to  the Pilates  class, which I  found  with  no  problem at  all  I did not  get  even  slightly  lost in  either  direction  and really  enjoyed  the class. Busy  afternoon  and  evening.

Today  was  special  because  the  Newbie  and his  Daddy  came  for lunch  and  we had a lovely  time  with lots of  giggling and  fun!!

If we were having coffee : I wowuld say it is  time  for  garden  round up!

and  now for  from  veg  to  flowers!




Lollypop Holly Bush


White Rose


Red hot Pokers


View through the Fuscias

Okay  well  that  is  about  all there is  time  for  this  week  so

If  we were having coffee : I would  ask  if  I  can fill up  your  cup, or  glass  or  get  you anything  else  to  eat  it is  all  calorie  free!

Let us  go  and Join Paul and the  gang  and  see  what  they are  all discussing  this  week! It has  been lovely  as always  to have  you all here  and  I  hope,  as does  Paul  that  you will all join us here again  next  week.

And of course  the


over at Part Time  Monster  and Gene’O’s



27 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. cordeliasmom2012
    Aug 15, 2015 @ 19:42:54

    How hard for your friend (and for you). Tell your friend that some kids manage to cover up any problems. My oldest always seemed like the most sensible, stable of my girls – I never knew she had been diagnosed as bipolar until she announced it on her blog! She was in her mid-20s by then. It still makes me feel guilty sometimes that I never saw any signs and therefore, was never in a position to help her through it.


    • willowdot21
      Aug 16, 2015 @ 13:34:34

      It is so hard isn’t it, I am sure as soon as you knew the situation you could help your daughter. My friend has yet to open up communications properly with her. All I can do is be there if either of them need me . Thank you for telling me this.


  2. Paul
    Aug 15, 2015 @ 20:34:11

    Great post Willow. Wonderful that you got to see Newbie today. Sounds like you had a busy week – I could send you an umbrella, we have lots of them here in Canada **Giggle** The pictures of the garden are awesome – wow you have a green thumb. I could never get plants to look so happy!


  3. markbialczak
    Aug 15, 2015 @ 21:16:13

    I feel so badly for your friend and her daughter, Willow. It’s awful to spiral so far downward that one does that to feel better somehow. My thoughts are with you all for her recovery.

    Also, may your sister find some peace in her bounce back from the operation as well. That’s awful medical news.

    Wet walking, no fun!

    Good day with the Newbie is a happy ending, always, my friend. Have a great week, Willow. ❤


    • willowdot21
      Aug 16, 2015 @ 13:29:34

      Thank you Mark it has been a strain for the family with our sister so far away and so ill, we have all been to see her but it is so worrying. Then my poor friend has been under so much stress too. But it is not all doom and gloom the Newbie and his Dad were over her visiting. Don’t mention rain!! Have a great week Mark and I have really enjoyed your posts on the family reunion!!


  4. Zed
    Aug 16, 2015 @ 06:31:40

    Goodness, so many things in there! That picture of your friend’s daughter is a sad one, but I must admit the cartoon took my eye….and as for that cat just above….well, I love cats too.


  5. Conny Kaufmann
    Aug 16, 2015 @ 11:42:51

    Unfortunately, many people suffer in silence for too long, often because they think nobody cares or nobody would understand, and it’s just when they snap that others notice something’s wrong.


  6. socialbridge
    Aug 16, 2015 @ 15:18:35

    Willow, sending lots of love and best wishes for your sister and your friend’s daughter. I hope they both turn the corner soon and find sunshine.


  7. Diana
    Aug 16, 2015 @ 19:03:39

    I love explodingdog!! My husband recently bought me one of the prints from the site. And that one is awesome. 🙂

    Lovely photos of the garden, too.

    Sorry to hear about both your sister and your friend’s daughter, and sending healing thoughts everyone’s way.


  8. Corina
    Aug 17, 2015 @ 02:03:23

    I’m so sorry to hear not only about your friend’s daughter but about yours! How awful that she got sick in the hospital where she went to get better! Ironic. I hope they are able to help her heal as soon as possible and that she can leave the hospital all better. I also hope your friend’s daughter gets the help she needs. Your friend is so luck to have you for support and encouragement!


    • willowdot21
      Aug 17, 2015 @ 10:06:05

      Hi Corina welcome do sit down and have a cuppa. These last few months have been very hard, it is not my daughter though, it is my sister who is so ill in hospital and we are all praying for her. As you say with my friend and her daughter all I can do is be there if they need me! I hope you are having a good week and that you and yours are well. xxxxx


  9. 1EarthUnited
    Aug 17, 2015 @ 10:28:10

    Hi Willow, sorry to hear about u’r family medical issues, hope everyone gets the help they need. Stay high and dry!


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