If We Were Having Coffee – May 17/2015: Guest Post.



Simple Afternoon Tea With A Friend

Welcome to Willow’s weekly coffee and tea garden. My name is Paul, I’ll be your Barista today and I’m happy to be here once again. Please come in and make yourself comfortable. Willow has plumped the cushions and started a cozy fire so we can warm ourselves while we have a cuppa and chat. As usual, I’d be pleased to bring a pot of whatever beverage you prefer – we have a wide range of teas and coffees to satisfy our world-wide readership. Also available is a large selection of spirits for addition to your cuppa or in its place. We can relax while we discuss the affairs of the week both personal and/or worldwide. How has your week been?

We discuss a wide range of topics here while having our coffee and tea. Today I thought that I’d do something a bit different and reproduce a letter that I just sent to a friend on Friday night after I got home from dialysis. I have changed her name and tidied up the punctuation and corrected spelling errors for ease for reading. Otherwise every word is identical. I chose to share this letter as I felt it gives a “real” glimpse into one day in my life.



Hey Francine!

I went to the hospital for dialysis a bit early today. When the weather is nice, I’ve been going early. I usually run out of cigarettes about mid-month so I go and troll the smoking areas around the hospital. I take the partially burnt cigarettes that people leave in the outside ashtrays and then take out the tobacco and use rolling papers to make some home made “rollies” (as they are called here). One visit can usually keep me in cigarettes for 2 days. Anyway, I was pondering today how I was going to get some more rolling papers – they are only $1.35 (about a pound) for 100 but I only had 75 cents to do me until my next cheque (in about 10 days).

So I was walking around the hospital – good exercise for me (about 1.5 km or 1 mile)- collecting the butts when I got to the employee smoking area behind the hospital. This is usually the mother lode as the staff (non-medical) is mostly French and smokes a lot. They are well paid and often leave cigarettes that are only 1/4 burnt. There are about 500 employees working in the Hospital. Anyway, there were a few people there but I seldom mooch, I just walk around and collect from the ashtrays. There was a woman sitting there and I greeted her. When she looked at me quizzically I explained that I used the unused tobacco to roll cigarettes. She gave me 4 new cigarettes and I thanked her. So, I sat down to smoke one and chat with her. Her brother in law was into trucking so we spoke about trucks and when she asked what I did I told her. Anyway, after about 10 minutes she got up to go, reached in her purse and gave me a twenty dollar bill (about 15 pounds) – saying that she wanted me to have it. I was flabbergasted and thanked her very much.

When I was walking back into the hospital I was thinking and realized I had asked for 70 cents earlier today – it is so like God to give so much more than we ask for. You know, people often really are very kind. I had the transport drop me at the corner store on the way home and I bought some milk and bread and rolling papers. I still have a few dollars to get to my next cheque. I was pissed off last week, when I had purchased a big ham to cut up for sandwiches and when I went to use it, there were black spots on the ham, so I pitched it. It annoys me because I kept it very cold and it was not passed the expiry date. That left me a bit short on food.

Dialysis went pretty well tonight – few alarms and the needles were perfect (first shot and excellent flow – indicating they were perfectly placed in the fistula). I had “restless legs” a condition that happens sometimes on dialysis – it is annoying but I got through. There’s a new hospital volunteer in the dialysis unit on Friday evening and Saturday – a  young student by the name of Mubarak. He is a third year biochemistry student at a local university. He does this because he enjoys helping – there is no requirement for him to do it. We chatted for about an hour about university and chemistry – it was a good break from the routine.

Anyway I should let you go F – I have to write a coffee guest post for Willow tonight. I wrote a long story, as a post, about a trip I took years ago and sent it to a blogger this week as a guest post. It wasn’t very good, so I told her to trash it. I need to replace it this weekend.

How’s things going with you? I didn’t follow you to Facebook today because my little computer freezes up every time I try to get on Facebook. I think it uses a lot of memory or something.

Anyway, I wish you fulfillment, health and happiness – and your family as well. Say “Hi” to Bill for me. Tell him that his fans are clamoring for more videos.



On that note, that’s about all we have room for this week, so it’s time to settle in with another cuppa and watch the fire. Sweets anyone? Please join me in thanking Willow for her invitation to tea. We are all honored that you dropped by today to visit. I hope you’ve enjoyed yourself and the conversation and please look around at Willow’s other posts while you’re here. Willow is over there serving her guests and chatting it up. Let’s go see how she is today. Have a great week. We look forward to seeing you back here for sweets and beverages of your choice again next week.

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Everyone Needs A Friend


Author: willowdot21

Female, wife, full time mother and Grandmother. I am not as happy go lucky as I used to be but I am still bubbling along on simmer! I have three handsome sons all grown and flown.The youngest married with a beautiful wife and two sons of his own. Eleven years ago I was working, running a home, driving and socializing then bang in a split second all that was gone. I had an accident at home. I broke my back, not for the first time, I had broken it 10 years previously as well. Unfortunately this time I had broken it really badly and it was truly messed up so I had to have two operations. I was told before each operation that the outcome could mean I spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair. Still as some guy once wrote "I am still standing " yes "better than I ever was " not quite but with the help of a walking stick and as long as I do not stand or sit in one position for too long, I am still standing! Update I no longer use the walking stick . I had lots of friends before the accident but when things like this happen, you loose most of them. Their lives move on and mine stood still and so they left me behind ...I know that is just the way life is but it hurt and always will. Then I looked around and saw those who were still there for me, these friends are the roses in my garden they need to be tended well. They are the diamonds in the dust, I will of been married 50yrs plus this year . Pain and boredom are my enemies now, I have to find different ways to approach life, use my pain befriend it almost...yer right , well that is what they tell me at the pain clinic ROFLMAO ...... if only I could! I have found an outlet for my fears, frustrations and night terrors . I have started writing poetry if that name can be applied to my writing. I hope I do not come over as a moaning winger. I hope I am past all that. I also hope that you might see how the poetry is moving from very dark through the grey and hopefully in to light ?? I need to update this a little here. I have worked very hard over the years since my accident, I go to the gym regularly, I have a Pilates class and a core class once a week . The guys at the gym and my Pilates teacher cajoled, teased, bullied and encouraged me to abandon my walking stick! :) My back is no longer straight it is C shaped because of the injury and I have lost two and a half inches in height but my Pilates and Core teachers have helped me to stand up as straight and as strongly as possible. Pain and depression are still hanging on my arm but I have weapons to use against them and if I say so myself I cope well. I have made lots of new friends, real diamonds. I am also very grateful for all the support and help I have encountered here on Wordpress. Hugs and welcome to everyone who visits.

36 thoughts on “If We Were Having Coffee – May 17/2015: Guest Post.”

  1. I’m really glad that somebody heard your plea, Paul. Somebody important passed it to somebody compassionate, and here we are. I’m glad the health part went well this week. The ham part, the overall food part, the money shortage part, that all makes me sad, Paul. You worked so hard your whole life, and here we are. Hang in there. You never, ever complain. You’re a really good man, Paul Curran.

    1. Oh, I am very lucky in a lot of ways Mark – it’s a long list. I’m doing OK. Thanks so much for dropping by for a read and a comment. I don’t have much money right now but honestly I owe very little as well. If you add the two together I probably have more (or less debt) than ever – just not a lot of cash. I’m warm and safe and have enough to eat. And I have you guys that I talk with daily. I’m doing a lot better than some. Thank you so much for visiting Mark. Please drop by again.

  2. Thanks so much Willow for the opportunity to Guest post. I hope all is well with you and your family.

    1. Hi Paul as always your goodness shines through. I am so sorry to hear that you have such a struggle to survive weekly. You have worked so hard all your life and given so much and now you have to struggle.
      As for the ham you should of taken it back, I do understand that may not of been possible but the shop should of replaced or refunded you. How come the people who give the most have the least?
      Thankfully you asked God for help and he sent you an angel in the form of that kind woman bless her. I am also so pleased that the dialysis went went you deserve not to suffer and I am pleased you had a chance to chat with the chemistry student

  3. Oh, Paul, do you always run short on food between checks? Seems like you should be getting more benefits if that’s the case.

    BTW, be sure to let me know when and where your other guest post runs so I can add it to your page on my blog.

    1. Hi CM! Thanks for dropping by. I have enough food, although I eat less towards the end of the month. I usually drop about 10 pounds before my next cheque arrives.That darned ham pissed me off this week. I should have taken it back, but was so angry I threw it out before I thought. I did the coffee post over at Mark’s last week – Willow didn’t have consistent access to internet. I have a three part series posting on a new blog Monday, tue, wed, https://julienoblog.wordpress.com/ It will be the first post on this blog – which has kind of a funny story.

      Thanks so much for dropping by CM – I’m working on a new post that I am going to send to you if you wish.

  4. Hi Paul, during my high school days, we would use dollar bills to roll up joints. In a pinch it works, and tastes pretty good! Apologies for our sacrilege, but Bible paper worked really well, burned smooth and clean. And you know there’s always a good book laying around… holy smokes! 😉
    And yes i can confirm that most everyone i’ve ever encountered are very kind hearted and GOD most definitely provides. I volunteer at food and animal shelters in NYC, doing good deeds are it’s own reward. People and animals show so much love, i always feel so blessed around them. Have a nice week everyone!

    1. Thanks for dropping by 1EU. It’s great to see you here. You know I hadn’t even thought of other sources of paper. I bought 2 packs of papers so that’s 200. I find that I smoke a lot less when I have to roll them – which is a bonus. I do still enjoy smoking although I have quit a few times. Thanks so much for the comment – have a great week!

      1. Hey Paul, 2 packs, u’r covered for the rest of the month. There’s no point in quitting if you enjoy it, so few pleasures left in life!
        Just smoke with awareness, savor the process, u’ll get a lot more satisfaction. If you read up on Osho, he explains quite well why we all indulge in habits. I quit naturally from this understanding alone – just didn’t need that morning drag anymore. Have a great week ahead Paul! 🙂

      2. Thanks so much 1EU. – yep two packs will roll the equivalent of a carton of smokes for $2.70. ( A carton is between $80 and $100 here) And I do rather enjoy the rolling process and I smoke less when I have to roll them. So, it’s win, win, win. I’ve quit before and some day will again, meanwhile i do enjoy them. 😀

  5. Gee, Paul. I had no idea life wasn’t a little easier for you. Bless the generous woman you chatted with at the hospital. Good the dialysis went smoothly this time. Have a better week next week. ❤

    1. Thank you very much for dropping by LCTC and thank you for the good wishes, i have plenty LCTC. This week was good. Thank you so much for coming by to visit each week – I am honored. 🙂

    1. Thank you so much for dropping by and commenting Diana. This week was fine. I am honored that you drop by regularly to visit. Thank you.

  6. Ah Paul – I bet your friend really enjoys hearing from you even when the news is not always the best, just sharing how things go in your day is such a special and privileged insight into the kind of gentleman you are – beautiful letter all round – thank you for sharing it here with us 🙂

    1. Thank you so much for dropping by for a read and comment Belinda. It is wonderful to have a friend that I feel comfortable just talking honesty about my day. Sometimes it is so helpful to just go over it or to express amazement at how lucky I am. Thank you so much for the compliment Belinda. Oh, as an aside I have a three part guest post that starts at https://julienoblog.wordpress.com/2015/05/18/melanie-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-186 If you have time to drop by for a read I would be honored,

  7. You are a good man, Paul, and are blessed to be able to see your blessings and gifts, as opposed to lamenting the bad. ❤
    BTW – I HATE RATS, but love the little rat pics with the teddy bears 🙂

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