It’s a Bump!

It is so easy when they are in your tums

showing off your latests phones to impress your chums.

You have no idea of the traumas that are about to come!

Look at you , looking so cool in the latest designer gear “innit”

with ya phone and ya cigarettes and your dreams in tatters

You don’t know the first thing about baby matters.

It is all so easy when they are still inside, you feel cool among your friends it makes you different gives you a sense of pride. Mind you it does get a tad scary when you wake in the night on your own with no where to hide.

Go on dreaming of your smart new pushchair with it’s central handle and three wheel drive and your new smart phone on which you so rely.

How ya  gonna cope when the pains come, and you truly believe an alien is trying to rip it’s way out of ya tum? Where will your friends be then? You will be on your own maybe just a midwife or if you lucky your Mum to hear you groan.

It is okay posing with your friends but what is going to happen when  the day ends.

You all say goodbye then they are all gone, you all have to get on with lives and cope with your babies on your own.

Not so bling , not so fun , no so Gucci  is it Hun?  All they do is feed and pooh and if they need changing or soothing it is all down to you. It is hard to keep the school work up to date, and sometimes Mum and  Dad don’t want to know and some of you get left to your own fate.

Some of you have to struggle on your own

no one to help for whatever reason you could not stay at home.

Some of you will marry your teen-aged bow but he will not have the skills

for a good job so, you both will struggle and you will row . Suddenly it does not

feel cool to be a teen-aged mum now.

Some of you will have to give up the chance of the career you yearned for

too busy looking after your babe, up to eyes in washing you cry behind your door.

So all I can say to you is that it is not all fun, it is hard and not glitzy to be a mum. You can forget your dreams of being a model or a pop star and you will be far too busy to get a top notch career to go very far.

So think about this and and don’t rush into mother hood if you are using it to be noticed or to escape . It is not big it is not right to have a bump as a badge  a baby is not for show a baby is for life.

8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. kate58
    Jan 18, 2013 @ 18:09:40

    You’ve hit on a topic that causes me to get up on the soapbox: teen mothers! The UK has a really high rate of teen pregnancy, & Dundee (where I live) has the highest teen pregnancy rate in Europe & the UK. There’s no excuse for this: contraception is readily & easily available, & these stupid TV shows like “Teen Mom” don’t help. Thanks for bring this to everyone’s attention – rant over! 😉 xxx

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    • willowdot21
      Jan 18, 2013 @ 18:24:40

      Rant on Kate , I am with you on this subject. I have written more than one poem on this subject ! I agree about the stupid TV programmes like Pramface and the such! Lets rant together!!

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  2. Beth Spottiswood
    Jan 25, 2013 @ 15:35:36

    Really good poem, I enjoyed it. However before the hatred of teen mums gets out of hand I would just like to interject a teen mums point of view: I agree it’s a massive problem and I in no way condone it, but it is possible, as in my case to be using two types of contraception responsibly and still get pregnant. It is possible to finish your education. It is possible to not be a burned on your family or society. It is possible to make a good life despite the judgement you face. I was devastated when I found out I was pregnant. I know there are many out there who do fit the stenotype portrayed so eloquently above, but just want to interject a note of caution, your judgement does not make it any easier for those of us who were responsible and who are trying to succeed in life any easier. Much love, Beth thesurvialguideforateenagemother xoxox

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    • willowdot21
      Jan 25, 2013 @ 16:43:12

      Hi Beth I am so sorry I did not mean to be so judgemental, I stand her and except the slap on the wrist as it is well deserved. I was really pointing to a certain sect of society and I fully see now that I have accidentally lumped teenmuns all in together. I am sorry mostly for not thinking more before I wrote and secondly for any hurt I have caused you or anyone reading. You certainly sound like a sensible person and I assume you kept you babe and are doing well. I was married at seventeen and a mum by the time I was nineteen well one week before my twentieth birthday so only just a teen mum , and I found it very hard . So congratulations to you . I have three lads two in their late late thirties ( one is forty this year) and one just thirty this month and it is still hard being a mum . I am sorry I did not want to be judgemental I shall think harder next time before I have a rant. xx

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