the real world is a pain

Dear all I  am sorry to have to withdraw for a while. Not from choice but I cannot cope with the pressure from my other half . I can’t take another argument about me always being on the laptop, which I am not . That’s another matter , so the long and short of it is I shall not be around for a while  but I shall try to look in as often as I can so don’t forget me, I hope to be back.

It really does pain me as I do love to write and silly as it may seem you are all my friends and I care about you all and will miss you .

There is no point in me going on so remember   if I do not comment it is not because I don’t care and if I don’t publish  for a while be patient with me as I will be back.

Love you all , be safe and happy .XXXXXXXX 😉 😉 :):);) 😉 :):);) 😉 :):);) 😉 :):);) 😉 :):);) 😉 :):)

Author: willowdot21

Female, wife, full time mother and Grandmother. I am not as happy go lucky as I used to be but I am still bubbling along on simmer! I have three handsome sons all grown and flown.The youngest married with a beautiful wife and two sons of his own. Eleven years ago I was working, running a home, driving and socializing then bang in a split second all that was gone. I had an accident at home. I broke my back, not for the first time, I had broken it 10 years previously as well. Unfortunately this time I had broken it really badly and it was truly messed up so I had to have two operations. I was told before each operation that the outcome could mean I spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair. Still as some guy once wrote "I am still standing " yes "better than I ever was " not quite but with the help of a walking stick and as long as I do not stand or sit in one position for too long, I am still standing! Update I no longer use the walking stick . I had lots of friends before the accident but when things like this happen, you loose most of them. Their lives move on and mine stood still and so they left me behind ...I know that is just the way life is but it hurt and always will. Then I looked around and saw those who were still there for me, these friends are the roses in my garden they need to be tended well. They are the diamonds in the dust, I will of been married 50yrs plus this year . Pain and boredom are my enemies now, I have to find different ways to approach life, use my pain befriend it almost...yer right , well that is what they tell me at the pain clinic ROFLMAO ...... if only I could! I have found an outlet for my fears, frustrations and night terrors . I have started writing poetry if that name can be applied to my writing. I hope I do not come over as a moaning winger. I hope I am past all that. I also hope that you might see how the poetry is moving from very dark through the grey and hopefully in to light ?? I need to update this a little here. I have worked very hard over the years since my accident, I go to the gym regularly, I have a Pilates class and a core class once a week . The guys at the gym and my Pilates teacher cajoled, teased, bullied and encouraged me to abandon my walking stick! :) My back is no longer straight it is C shaped because of the injury and I have lost two and a half inches in height but my Pilates and Core teachers have helped me to stand up as straight and as strongly as possible. Pain and depression are still hanging on my arm but I have weapons to use against them and if I say so myself I cope well. I have made lots of new friends, real diamonds. I am also very grateful for all the support and help I have encountered here on Wordpress. Hugs and welcome to everyone who visits.

49 thoughts on “the real world is a pain”

  1. Oh Willowdot, I am so, so sorry to read this. Oh please, may you take more charge of your freedom, your life. I hope whatever you do in the break, it’s good for you.

    Oh Willowdot, I came by to tell you I FINALLY got around to thanking you for a Reader Appreciation Award you once gave me – Damn. Too late. May you see this thanks one day. Sincerest, sincerest best to you. x N.

      1. Got the one you sent before all this nonsense.
        Time for some rhubarb crumble, Foxy !

      2. Yes perhaps you could send some by the container load, not sure how often I shall be on here but will always check the mail , by hook or by crook or even Grims Scythe if I am desperate XXX QOS .
        PS yes it is bloody nonsense but I am here in it up to my ankles! 🙂 😉

  2. This seems to me to be a very big mistake. How you spend your time in life is YOUR call and no-one else’s. Capitulate on that and where will it end? So long as we all use moderation!

  3. Its important to be balanced and not neglect those that are most important to us. Put family first and recreation second and I am sure you will find a healthy balance between the two. Be well dear, and stay safe. Until we meet again 🙂

    1. Yes you are right, I have always put everyone else first all my life. When ever I join or do something I enjoy it becomes easier for me to give it up as it causes too much trouble . I thought now I had found something that was for me and would not impact on anyone. Hey ho! I shall be around but not as often . I certainly hope I will as I love writing ! You stay well too.

      1. I’m not saying giving up writing dear, sorry if I came off that way. I don’t want to see you give up something you love. If you need to talk you know where to find me.

  4. You know exactly how I feel, so I won’t go into detail…I will miss you while you are gone…and be forever grateful when you return.

    Write me via email if you wish.

    Be encouraged!

    1. Thank you Stephen, I shall read and comment on as many posts as I can. I shall endeavour to post , I just need to find the time but sadly it will not be as often. I shall talk to you soon. thank you for your encouragement.

  5. I am slightly fearful for you, living with what seems like somewhat of a “control freak”, dear willowdot. I am so blessed in that my hubbie adores social networking almost more than I do! We use it to fellowship in new and different ways with each other! My prayers, my fervent prayers, for you always, dear sister!

    1. I have lived in this way for over forty years sometimes I can cope sometimes I can’t but I will be back I am so grateful to have met you. I shall not waste the gift of your friendship xx

  6. I understand, sweet friend. For my own reasons, I’ve not been around much lately either, but rest assured, I’ll not forget you & will be here when you return. ♥

  7. I hope that you don’t take this the wrong way Willowdot but your other half needs to get a grip, you are only doing what you enjoy and why would anyone wish to spoil the enjoyment of a loved one by not allowing that enjoyment to take place… Like Kate, I understand why you are leaving for a while but in all honesty, you shouldn’t need to, and your other half should be ashamed of himself…

    Come back soon Willowdot and don’t be unhappy, we will still be here on your return, and I hope that will be sooner rather than later 🙂 🙂

    Androgoth XXx

      1. I may be a tad blunt sometimes I know
        but I definitely mean well and I hope that
        you will be coming back soon 🙂 🙂

        Androgoth XXx

      2. Be as blunt as you like I hope I may return eventually for now I shall just grab my moments to say hi as when I can ! I miss writing daily I cannot bring myself to write too much on paper as for obvious reasons I do not want my work read. I am working on a short story unlike anything I have done before…. Trials and tribulations!! I hear they make us stronger ???

  8. Mentioned you in a post today. I’m thinking of you. I wish you to know that. I hope you come out with the balls of your life, in your hands. N’n.

    1. I miss being on here Noeleen, I try to sneak in when I can. Have no fear I will be back somehow , for now I shall slip in here as often as I can I am sorry for not commenting but be assured I read and listen on my phone whenever I get the chance. It hurts not to write I have so much to say ( big mouth 🙂 ) Love to you and Daniel and if your sister tries to contact me she will get short shrift… polite but short shrift!hugs to you both!!

  9. I was wondering what happened to you… I’ve been dealing with some health issues so didn’t check in sooner. I’m truly sorry to read this and I send you love, light and courage. I do hope you return to blogging soon. I don’t know the dynamics of your relationship, but I hope you can reach an amicable compromise that honors both of you. You are in my prayers… 🙂

    1. Firstly I am sorry to hear you have been unwell I do hope that you are improving now I am sending you positive vibes, be well. Thank you for caring about me I do hope to get back here to my beloved blog sooner than later. I just cannot cope with arguing about it right now so I am not giving up but giving in just for now. I shall pop in when ever I get the chance until I can be back and write as much as I like. I shall be writing I will not give up I cannot . I have had to give up on many things in the past but I shall not give up writing.Love and prayers I send to you. xx 🙂

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