My eldest sister is 14yrs my senior and she looked after me a lot when I was young. Though she has more memories of this than I do. Circumstance then separated us for a long time then through the internet, more than anything else we have grown back together. Definitely one of the better changes in my life. The photo below is not us …. but it could of been.
Female, wife, full time mother and Grandmother. I am not as happy go lucky as I used to be but I am still bubbling along on simmer! I have three handsome sons all grown and flown.The youngest married with a beautiful wife and two sons of his own. Back in 2010 I was working, running a home, driving and socializing then bang in a split second all that was gone. I had an accident at home. I broke my back, not for the first time, I had broken it 10 years previously as well. Unfortunately this time I had broken it really badly and it was truly messed up so I had to have two operations. I was told before each operation that the outcome could mean I spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair. Still as some guy once wrote "I am still standing " yes "better than I ever was " I no longer use the walking stick . I had lots of friends before the accident but when things like this happen, you loose most of them. Their lives move on and mine stood still and so they left me behind ...I know that is just the way life is but it hurt and always will. Then I looked around and saw those who were still there for me, these friends are the roses in my garden they need to be tended well. They are the diamonds in the dust. I will of been married 53yrs this comming year. I have found different ways to approach life, use my pain befriend it almost...yer right , well that is what they tell me at the pain clinic ROFLMAO ...... if only I could! I have found an outlet for my fears, frustrations and night terrors . I have started writing poetry if that name can be applied to my writing. I hope I do not come over as a moaning winger. I hope I am past all that. I also hope that you might see how the poetry is moving from very dark through the grey and hopefully in to light.
My back is no longer straight it is C shaped because of the injury and I have lost two and a half inches in height but my Pilates and Core teachers have helped me to stand up as straight and be as strong as possible. Pain and depression are still hanging on my arm but I have weapons to use against them and if I say so myself I cope well.
I have made lots of new friends, real diamonds. I am also very grateful for all the support and help I have encountered here on Wordpress. Hugs and welcome to everyone who visits.
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39 thoughts on “Sisters Change”
smiles…this is a lovely tribute to your sister…my sister was 2 years seperate…love how you ended this, beyond sisters….or no longer seperated by age
Thank you, I have three sisters and two brothers but this my eldest sister and I have grown closer through email and messaging. She helped me through some bad times and now she is unwell and I can help her. What goes around comes around.
oh this is lovely..i only had a brother and think it’s not quite the same…my daughters are 4 years apart, they’re 17 and 21 now – and they are really, really close..always were…
Thank you. As I said above I have three sisters and two brothers and I am closer to my sisters, I think that is just a female thing, we love our brothers but perhaps you have learned they do not share!! I have three sons, 28yrs 36yrs and 38yrs they help each other but not like sisters…well they are not sisters are they? :o) I am sure your girls will remain friends always. xx
Willow,
We get separated but not for long. The internet is certainly a boon.Now’s the time to get back the lost years.You’ve done something many just think about! Great verse!
Thank you I treasure all my sisters but to have a chance to share this relationship with my eldest sister again is a wonderful bonus. I hope you are well and happy.xx
This is such a sweet take on changes and on sisterhood. Gave me a lump in my throat.
I selected your name randomly from the Linky list…..and I think it is darned amazing that you, Sheila, and I all wrote about our sisters in our poems about changes! What synchronicity. And I find a lot of solace in yours, because mine is of separation and not reunion. My sister and I tried for ten years after our mother’s death, using the internet as you mentioned. I suggested a phone call once each change of season, but she never responded to the idea. In the last year we have drifted completely apart. Today (Nov. 22) is her birthday, the first I recall ever ignoring….as she did mine in January.
Yes it is an amazing thing and three of us as well, I am so sorry that you and your sister have drifted apart. It is sad that now you have lost the tenuous link of the birthdays, maybe you could send a Christmas card. Sorry none of my business. I just know that I would feel I was bleeding if I was completely severed from any of my sisters or brothers. Sadly I know this happens and seemingly in your case just distance between you. My husband and his brother no longer speak or communicate and there are only about 15miles between them. My husband had a lifetime of being taken for granted and used till finally he just stopped doing what he was bid. It grieves me and I know it grieves him too but neither will relent. Thank you for such a lovely comment on my poem I wrote it from the heart. I hope you can find your sister again, and if not well she is there and you are here so be well and happy and just pray she is too! xx
Wonderful tribute to your sister! It’s great that you are now closer to each other~
I recently wrote a tribute to my two sisters, you may enjoy: http://lscotthoughts.com/2011/11/16/note-to-sis/ 🙂
How strange – my sister and I were not estranged but not close for a number of years and it was the internet that forged the new closeness we have now. She lives in another state and while we talk on the phone occasionally (std charges are expensive for call) it is on line that we have the most contact. I’m glad you re-connected with your big sis.
I’m glad too it was not estrangement for us either. She and her husband and family went off as £10 POM’s and spent 2 years in Australia on their return they moved Kent way I got married and life and phone charges got in the way. Then came the internet and free phone calls from my provider and hers. So as she is now up north and I am south we ate in touch almost daily.
There are a number of very positive things about the net and this is one of the best examples of it. Allowing family who are separated through distance and the cost of phone calls to remain in contact and be an integral part of each others lives.
willowdot21 
smiles…this is a lovely tribute to your sister…my sister was 2 years seperate…love how you ended this, beyond sisters….or no longer seperated by age
Thank you, I have three sisters and two brothers but this my eldest sister and I have grown closer through email and messaging. She helped me through some bad times and now she is unwell and I can help her. What goes around comes around.
oh this is lovely..i only had a brother and think it’s not quite the same…my daughters are 4 years apart, they’re 17 and 21 now – and they are really, really close..always were…
Thank you. As I said above I have three sisters and two brothers and I am closer to my sisters, I think that is just a female thing, we love our brothers but perhaps you have learned they do not share!! I have three sons, 28yrs 36yrs and 38yrs they help each other but not like sisters…well they are not sisters are they? :o) I am sure your girls will remain friends always. xx
Thank you so much for this! I appreciate your love and care1
What goes around comes around and it my pleasure to repay a little now if I can. xxx
Lovely piece. with a great sense of sincerity. Loved it.
Thank you I did mean every word.
I seek honesty in words and you have satisfied with this piece…deeply touching
Peace
Thank you it is from my heart.
love it.
I have one about 4 years apart.
Treasure her then. xx
such a nice loving tribute. great job!
Thank you I did write it from the heart.
Willow,
We get separated but not for long. The internet is certainly a boon.Now’s the time to get back the lost years.You’ve done something many just think about! Great verse!
Thank you I treasure all my sisters but to have a chance to share this relationship with my eldest sister again is a wonderful bonus. I hope you are well and happy.xx
sweet one.
it reminds me of mine,
smiles.
Happy Writing.
Thank you happy writing to you too! I hope you keep in touch with your sister ! be well and happy.
A strikingly personal narrative that is touching and insightful. Thank you for sharing!
It was a pleasure and it was all true too!!!
what a lovely ode to your sister. I wrote mine about my sister, too. there is nothing quite like them, is there?
sisters are not replaceable we need to cherish and tend to them like flowers, be well and happy. xxx
Wunderschöne Erzählund ich habe leider nur eine Schwester lieber Gruss und eine schöne Woche wünsche ich dir Gruss Gislinde.
Vielen Dank Giselzitrone Ich bin froh, dass du eine Schwester sie sind einfach die besten, sind sie nicht? Ich hoffe, Sie haben eine gute Woche. xxxx
I’d be lost without my sisters. Thanks for sharing this beautiful poem. xx
Thank you for your kind words it is a pleasure to share.xx
This is such a sweet take on changes and on sisterhood. Gave me a lump in my throat.
I selected your name randomly from the Linky list…..and I think it is darned amazing that you, Sheila, and I all wrote about our sisters in our poems about changes! What synchronicity. And I find a lot of solace in yours, because mine is of separation and not reunion. My sister and I tried for ten years after our mother’s death, using the internet as you mentioned. I suggested a phone call once each change of season, but she never responded to the idea. In the last year we have drifted completely apart. Today (Nov. 22) is her birthday, the first I recall ever ignoring….as she did mine in January.
Thank you for this dear poem.
Yes it is an amazing thing and three of us as well, I am so sorry that you and your sister have drifted apart. It is sad that now you have lost the tenuous link of the birthdays, maybe you could send a Christmas card. Sorry none of my business. I just know that I would feel I was bleeding if I was completely severed from any of my sisters or brothers. Sadly I know this happens and seemingly in your case just distance between you. My husband and his brother no longer speak or communicate and there are only about 15miles between them. My husband had a lifetime of being taken for granted and used till finally he just stopped doing what he was bid. It grieves me and I know it grieves him too but neither will relent. Thank you for such a lovely comment on my poem I wrote it from the heart. I hope you can find your sister again, and if not well she is there and you are here so be well and happy and just pray she is too! xx
Beautful tribut to the relationship with your sister. Lovely!
Thank you it is written from the heart.
Wonderful tribute to your sister! It’s great that you are now closer to each other~
I recently wrote a tribute to my two sisters, you may enjoy: http://lscotthoughts.com/2011/11/16/note-to-sis/ 🙂
Thanks again I look forward to reading your poem.
sweet, love the imagery.
Thank you so much and it is all true!
How strange – my sister and I were not estranged but not close for a number of years and it was the internet that forged the new closeness we have now. She lives in another state and while we talk on the phone occasionally (std charges are expensive for call) it is on line that we have the most contact. I’m glad you re-connected with your big sis.
I’m glad too it was not estrangement for us either. She and her husband and family went off as £10 POM’s and spent 2 years in Australia on their return they moved Kent way I got married and life and phone charges got in the way. Then came the internet and free phone calls from my provider and hers. So as she is now up north and I am south we ate in touch almost daily.
There are a number of very positive things about the net and this is one of the best examples of it. Allowing family who are separated through distance and the cost of phone calls to remain in contact and be an integral part of each others lives.
Yes that is very important