My Mother said to me

They brake your back when they are small and when they grow they break your heart. This is some learned knowledge my mother did impart. I did not understand, I was too young to see just how wise  she was when she said that to me.

This tiny baby lying here, safe inside it’s cot will grow and turn your black hair grey , I am  joking I hear you say. I certainly am not. You wait, until they catch a cold or even worse an ear infection they will scream in your ear and make you walk the floor , they will without exception.

God forbid it can get even worse you end up in the hospital with drips and lines and stress, comfort offered from a friendly nurse.The joy and relief when you can take them home is truly overwhelming but so is the fear for their health and the sense they must not be left alone.

life within your grasp

The tiny toes and fingers the spark of love in their eye will breed in you the deepest purest  form of love, for them you will lay down and die.

The sleepless nights begin to fade and the bottle secedes the breast and soon they are eating solids you make it all yourself, they deserve the very best.

Don’t close your eyes don’t look away don’t you even wink for they will grow so fast and change so quick that you will miss it in a blink. Savour every blessed second none of it will you ever be able to repeat. Though when they are sad or in pain you will wish you could hit delete.

Very soon they learn to walk with bumps along the way they waddle and they toddle and make you smile more each day. You will need to be quick and have eyes in the back of your head they will run you ragged  and you will sleep well in your bed!

The next step is their first word and that is often daddy , mind you if you’ve done all the work that can make you maddie !¬ Seriously though it is only because it is easier to say Da, Da than it is to say Mummy!

You wake up one day and they have started school the first time you drop them off they run off smiling and you are left crying all the way home like a fool! Very soon you become a taxi, you run them here you you drop them there , they are always growing , always hungry you never have a second to spare.

School can be a hard and cruel place and you will need all your wits  about you, as children can do and say the meanest things so you must encourage and help to. You just begin to think the worst is past when teenage years beset you. You cannot do right for doing wrong the way they act you could believe that they actually hate you.

Why are there so many things just waiting to hurt them , drink and drugs  the pain of love, look out for religious cults .The fear of their first driving lessen , the relief of them passing their exams. Then they are off to college bless them.

I could go on the pain is still strong when any of mine are ill , or if life or work or girls or wives hurt them. I want to stride up and fix their problems but I have to stand back and let them fix things.

So now I see what my mother meant when she gave me her knowledge it was not about getting the best of schools or buying the right brand of porridge. The love we have for or children is deeper than the sea. We can make things good when they are young but when they are grown we have to set them free.

I you love them set them free

6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. liv2write2day
    Sep 07, 2011 @ 22:05:11

    This is a beautiful painting of the joys, fears, difficulties of motherhood. The photos you chose are perfect.

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    • willowdot21
      Sep 08, 2011 @ 08:24:46

      Thank you, it is not so hard to write about it having been there and got the Tshirt . It is funny though that when that phase in my life passed I sudden had all the knowledge I would of killed for when younger. I have to say again how much your story touched me .

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  2. vampireweather
    Sep 14, 2011 @ 14:27:03

    I love your first line. I’ve never heard that saying but it is so accurate. A very insightful concept on parenting and life in general

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  3. willowdot21
    Sep 14, 2011 @ 14:37:11

    Thank you. My mother was always saying the most wonderful things full of wisdom , sometimes I listened sometimes I did not but so far she has not been wrong yet. I miss her.

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  4. vampireweather
    Sep 14, 2011 @ 14:54:01

    My mother was a counselor and always teaching me proverbs. She was a family counselor so she always had some comment about families and children. I am surprised she never used this one. I intend to tell it to her, and, knowing her, she will use it in front of a crowd eventually 🙂

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  5. willowdot21
    Sep 14, 2011 @ 15:13:09

    My mum would of been so pleased to know that one of her sayings was travelling around and hopefully helping people understand life!

    Reply

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